future_mrs

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]My only thought is that maybe she is silently GBCK-ing and wants no further connections. Or she is mad at Sesh and I for posting here about her FB activity, even though we were only doing it to defend her. Whatever. We weren't close, but its always a little crappy to lose a good acquaintance. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

Honestly, if a whole bunch of people were accusing me of doing something, regardless of whether or not I actually did it, I'd probably dump them all too.  Even the ones that weren't.  Because I wouldn't want people to know any more about my personal life because it was her personal info that was used to make these accusations. 

J&K10910

And?  I'd probably GBCK regardless of my guilt or innocence, because I wouldn't want to hang out with a bunch of people who thought I was guilty of something that crappy.  Especially if I knew that nothing I said would win over the masses, more than likely.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Honestly, if a whole bunch of people were accusing me of doing something, regardless of whether or not I actually did it, I'd probably dump them all too.  Even the ones that weren't.  Because I wouldn't want people to know any more about my personal life because it was her personal info that was used to make these accusations. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

What personal info was used to make the accusations? Nothing that wasn't found places other than FB. Her location and the fact that she's a TK mod were information from TK.

ohwhynot

You're making good points, J & K. 


Honestly, the existence of the callout board itself almost made me GBCK, and I'm still kind of considering it.  Sometimes people aren't what they appear to be online, ya know? 

marriedfilingjointly

If I'm ever accused of something I didn't do, I'd come over and defend myself so that I could be told that I'm only making myself look more guilty.  Wait. 

[Deleted User]

I didn't think I put any personal info out there. I just said she was running errands and cooking, which was why she probably hadn't seen the posts. I don't see why someone would get all up in arms about that. The other stuff sure, but that wasn't from her FB.

But I do agree about the silent GBCK. I don't know that I'd want to continue hanging out here regardless of guilt if there was nothing I could say to prove my innocence.

dmiller9274

I can't imagine being guilty or innocent and not responding at all.  I couldn't do it, I'd have to say something at least

pinkpinot

She took her bio down too

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Yup!!! There's been a whole lot of personal info given out on both boards calling her out. 
Posted by mag920[/QUOTE]

The only info that's been given out is that she's somewhere near [I can't remember the name of the city], KS.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : What personal info was used to make the accusations? Nothing that wasn't found places other than FB. Her location and the fact that she's a TK mod were information from TK.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

It's still personal info that was found online, even if it was found on TK.  I wouldn't want to put any MORE out there for people.  See what I'm saying?

And I didn't say that the person who said she was off running errands was disclosing personal info, if that's what you thought I meant (I think it was Sesh that said that comment).  Not at all what I meant!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Actually, I think yanking personal info from someone's FB and using it against them is probably a bannable offense.

I'm not talking about the people who mentioned she was running errands. That's not exactly super secret personal info.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : It's still personal info that was found online, even if it was found on TK.  I wouldn't want to put any MORE out there for people.  See what I'm saying? <strong>And I didn't say that the person who said she was off running errands was disclosing personal info, if that's what you thought I meant (I think it was Sesh that said that comment).  Not at all what I meant!</strong>
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

No, no, I think we all think that was fine.

I get what you're saying.

Stackeye210

She also took her picture out of her signature

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]<strong>I didn't think I put any personal info out there. I just said she was running errands and cooking, which was why she probably hadn't seen the posts. I don't see why someone would get all up in arms about that. The other stuff sure, but that wasn't from her FB.</strong> But I do agree about the silent GBCK. I don't know that I'd want to continue hanging out here regardless of guilt if there was nothing I could say to prove my innocence.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Yes, this was what my vague comment was referring to.  That's not what I meant.  I'm just saying that I would probably get rid of everyone just so knotties wouldn't have any more access to my personal info at all.  Because I think after this big mess I wouldn't be trusting of any of them, even the ones that defended me.  I didn't mean you gave out her personal info, Sesh.

vallyhoo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : The only info that's been given out is that she's somewhere near [I can't remember the name of the city], KS.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

but even she has posted that publicly - <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_kansas_western-ks-venue-needed" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_kansas_western-ks-venue-needed</a>

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : No, no, I think we all think that was fine. I get what you're saying.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Right, but Sesh then said that she didn't think she gave any personal info.  So in case that was directed at my comment about the personal info, I just wanted to make sure she didn't think I was putting her on blast for that, because I wasn't :)

pinkpinot

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[QUOTE]I can't imagine being guilty or innocent and not responding at all.  I couldn't do it, I'd have to say something at least
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]

Me too and you know, let's just say she is responsible for the callout site, she didn't create all the pages of content, I am more angry at those anonymous people anyway (whoever they may be).  I'm just curious as to why she or someone would want to host a hate site.  I am confused on how it was supposed to teach a lesson when all it did was hurt feelings :-(

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Yes, this was what my vague comment was referring to.  That's not what I meant.  I'm just saying that I would probably get rid of everyone just so knotties wouldn't have any more access to my personal info at all.  Because I think after this big mess I wouldn't be trusting of any of them, even the ones that defended me.  I didn't mean you gave out her personal info, Sesh.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

It's all good. I was just making sure. I would never knowingly give out personal info so if that was out of line then I'd definitely want someone to tell me. But I can see what you mean about dropping everyone. It would be hard to trust people for sure.

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : but even she has posted that publicly - <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_kansas_western-ks-venue-needed" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_kansas_western-ks-venue-needed</a>
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

Well there ya' go.
Like I said earlier (can't remember if it were here or FFF), but what's making her look the most guilty is the fact with the anonymous email and the site being gone within minutes. Plus now, if she's removing her bio/pictures/fb friends...screams guilt. If I wasn't guilty, I would know deep down and sluff it off.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Well there ya' go. Like I said earlier (can't remember if it were here or FFF), but what's making her look the most guilty is the fact with the anonymous email and the site being gone within minutes. Plus now, if she's removing her bio/pictures/fb friends...screams guilt. If I wasn't guilty, I would know deep down and sluff it off.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

Was the anonymous email sent to the CallOut site email, or directly to FutureMrs's email?

xyrius

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Me too and you know, let's just say she is responsible for the callout site, <strong>she didn't create all the pages of content,</strong> I am more angry at those anonymous people anyway (whoever they may be). <strong> I'm just curious as to why she or someone would want to host a hate site</strong>.  I am confused on how it was supposed to teach a lesson when all it did was hurt feelings :-(
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

not just that, but she ended up endorsing those hate messages by posting them to her site in the first place.

btrflykate1230

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Well there ya' go. Like I said earlier (can't remember if it were here or FFF), but what's making her look the most guilty is the fact with the anonymous email and the site being gone within minutes. Plus now, if she's removing her bio/pictures/fb friends...screams guilt. If I wasn't guilty, I would know deep down and sluff it off.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

Agreed. If it wasn't me, I wouldn't be deleting any of my stuff. I would lay low for a while and then post something about my innocence.

pumpkinpumpkin

I don't know, jk. I would imagine the callout site.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Was the anonymous email sent to the CallOut site email, or directly to FutureMrs's email?
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

I know that her bio posted her personal email address so it very well could have been straight to her email.

pinkpinot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : not just that, but she ended up endorsing those hate messages by posting them to her site in the first place.
Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE]

You're right.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]I don't know, jk. I would imagine the callout site.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

Because if it was sent to the callout site email, well...all that says is that the creator is guilty.  Which is silly, we know that much.  It does nothing to support the guilt of Future Mrs.  Now if it was sent directly to Future Mrs then that would be more curious to me.

Blueyed228

It makes me sad that this stupid call out site has garnered a 7 page post on this board.  Again.

And lawyers etc being involved?  For what?  Someone made a site that was mean, people got their feelings hurt, it was taken down.  How is that illegal?  If KA and Co. have an issue with TK being mentioned on other sites without permission, then I would expect them to have an issue with the TKPS site as well. 

Personally I just think that there are alot of people who want explanations and apologies that are never going to happen.  It happened, it sucked, it was wrong, and its over.  I dont get why we still care?  Of course apologies are due, and people who got called out have every right to be upset and want some answers, but is it ever going to happen?  Probably not.  There are alot of things that happened on this site that hurt people feelings, and warrant apologies that will never happen.  Its just the nature of the internet.

I also agree with PP that we will never know for sure who did it, and putting the blame solely on FutureMrs isnt fair.  If it were me being blamed like this I wouldnt respond either.  What would be the point?  The damage is done.  People are going to take this and run with it for months.  If she is innocent, she doesnt have a chance on being welcomed back anyways.......

btrflykate1230

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Because if it was sent to the callout site email, well...all that says is that the creator is guilty.  Which is silly, we know that much.  It does nothing to support the guilt of Future Mrs.  Now if it was sent directly to Future Mrs then that would be more curious to me.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Well, if it was sent to the callouts email, and the email said something like "We know it's you future_mrs!" it could mean one of two things:

1) The callout creator, who isn't future_mrs, didn't want future_mrs to be blamed, so she just took it down out of guilt.

2) It WAS future_mrs, and she knew she was caught, so then she took it down.

xyrius

personally it would burn my a$$ if someone accused me of doing something like that, and I would want to defend my own honour - but that's just me. 

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: future_mrs : Because if it was sent to the callout site email, well...all that says is that the creator is guilty.  Which is silly, we know that much.  It does nothing to support the guilt of Future Mrs.  Now if it was sent directly to Future Mrs then that would be more curious to me.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

That doesn't make much sense. If it <em>was</em> futuremrs and was sent to the site naming her and it was taken down that makes sense. If she wasn't behind it and someone sent in something naming futuremrs as culprit why take down the site? Why not just ignore it and carry on? Kwim?