Confessions, Perhaps?

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]LTZ:  Perhaps a glass of wine before you go?  I mean, not get sloshed, but take the edge off?  And it will be fine!  Have fun!  FWIW, I side-eye all the stupid bridal magazines that show basically uber tall skeletons in wedding gowns.  Seriously.  I have hips and boobs...show me a bride with a reall body in your god damn gowns!
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]


Haha, I may have to try the wine, haha. Surprisingly, I didn't think of that myself! I'm sure I'll look back at this tomorrow and feel like such an idiot for obsessing over nothing.

And yeah, I agree about the bridal magazines and stock photos. I understand it's modeling and all, but goodness I am not a size 2 so the pictures don't really help me to envision what the dress may look like on me. It's frustrating.

And thanks Kat Eyes, I hope I am crying tears of joy tomorrow.  : )

kd.joseph

I feel your angst LTZ. Just know that a wedding dress shopping, isnt shopping for  jeans you cant get over your a$$, believe me most the women that work in bridal stores can help you decide what is best for you and will make you feel great. They are not all "Randys" from SYTTD, but they can help.

We are not all size 2's.
Let us know how it goes ok?

[Deleted User]

LTZ, you will look great  in your dress. Don't worry about a thing and have fun. You are awesome, that's all you need to know.

I don't have any major confessions that I can think of. But we did just find out that 2 huge pine trees in our yard need to be removed (got hit by lightning, as the tree guy said this morning) and our landlord has to have them removed like now. And I'm secretely glad it will cost thousands of dollars because they rarely do anything to fix up our house. They are really nice and helpful on other stuff, but this house is old and falling apart.

Also, KD that is awesome about your H.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions, Perhaps? : It will be awesome, I promise :) You'll have to make sure you tell us all about it.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]


Thanks, AATB. Believe me, if things go well I'll be all up in SB like WHAAAAAAT!!!

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I think as long as a couple has a system that works for them and they're on the same page about it - it's fine.  Even if it means one person tells the other how it's going to be, lol.  It sounds like NS's H understands even though he may be a little bummed about it.  He knows in the long run it's the responsible thing to do.

I'm a saver, and Ben's a spender - but, he usually is very careful with how he spends his money since he works in a bank.  If I feel like we should hold off on purchasing something or have opinions on how we should manage our extra cash, he'll have an open and understanding ear.

LessThanZero

Thank you all, I really appreciate it.

KD - I actually thought about that SecretGroom thing a few days ago and meant to ask you about it since you had thought it could be your H. But then when you didn't bring it up again, I figured it must not have been.

That's really kind of funny that he would think to do that. Did he say why he picked the topic of what guys do to turn women on?

missy68

I confess I started off the morning in tears/pain, but came to work because I had a feeling my coworker would pull the "I'm going to stay home one more day" card. She's worked 2 days this week ( and was off all last week, which is fine - her mom passed away - no problem at all with that). Those 2 days? She played solitaire.

And yep, she did. I've been working my ass off since 8AM.

And, last time I drove my car, it was 30 miles to E. This morning, it was 11. WTF. It's a 9 mile drive to work. So John's either going to bring the gas can and put gas in it, or take my car and put gas in it.

And we're finally over freezing.

K Byte

I confess that I'm the worst money manager ever. I have a crap load of savings bonds that my great-grandparents/grandparents/other older relatives bought for me when I was born and some well before I was born. It's not like I could live off them for the rest of my life but it's not exactly a small sum of money either. I have no idea what to do with them so they're sitting in a box in my bedroom. I know the money could be put to better use in terms of earning more interest or whatever I just am so intimidated by the whole process I'm totally putting my head in the sand about it. I've gotten a lot better at the whole bargain shopping/not buying stuff you don't really need aspect of life but when it comes to the bigger financial decisions I'm clueless and H is slightly better but still mostly clueless but we're cheap so we don't want to give someone our money in order to manage our money.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]Thank you all, I really appreciate it. KD - I actually thought about that SecretGroom thing a few days ago and meant to ask you about it since you had thought it could be your H. But then when you didn't bring it up again, I figured it must not have been. That's really kind of funny that he would think to do that. Did he say why he picked the topic of what guys do to turn women on?
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

Well like I said he is very curious in nature. And he wanted to know what everyone's SO does that makes them happy. He realized after the fact that he should have worded the thread better.

And I really wasn't going to call him out, because he has met some knotties, and will probably meet more. So I didn't want to embarrass him, any more then he he'd done himself. He just like to know what goes on in here. And he was raised with 3 sisters, so he just gets curious. And he's silly ;)

He actually wanted me to tell him once what it was like when I have my TOM. The only man in life to ask me that besides my Gyno.

[Deleted User]

Missy, I feel you on the pain thing. I woke up with the worst pain in my right wrist/arm, I guess from overworking it with all the typing/computer work I've been doing lately, and late last night.

I can't put any pressure on it. I tried to pick Whisky up earlier and almost dropped him because there was an instant flash of pain all the way throughout my wrist and arm. Hope you feel better soon! And sorry about your co-worker. Lazy co-workers suck.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions, Perhaps? : Well like I said he is very curious in nature. And he wanted to know what everyone's SO does that makes them happy. He realized after the fact that he should have worded the thread better. And I really wasn't going to call him out, because he has met some knotties, and will probably meet more. So I didn't want to embarrass him, any more then he he'd done himself. He just like to know what goes on in here. And he was raised with 3 sisters, so he just gets curious. And he's silly ;) He actually wanted me to tell him once what it was like when I have my TOM. The only man in life to ask me that besides my Gyno.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

Awww, I feel bad for talking about my sex castle moat now.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions, Perhaps? : Awww, I feel bad for talking about my sex castle moat now.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

No dont Any! He loved your posts seriously! You are really the only person her remembered besides OWN, only because he met her IRL.

He thought your answers were great.

K Byte

I confess that I'm secretly really happy that H and his ex-girlfriend from high school/college are no longer friends on Facebook. I don't know who did the defriending and I don't want to ask H because if she did it he probably didn't even notice lol. But I didn't want her seeing our wedding pictures and stuff. She used to call him and talk to him a lot when we were in the early stages of our relationship and I feel like she is a shady person in general.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions, Perhaps? : Well like I said he is very curious in nature. And he wanted to know what everyone's SO does that makes them happy. He realized after the fact that he should have worded the thread better. And I really wasn't going to call him out, because he has met some knotties, and will probably meet more. So I didn't want to embarrass him, any more then he he'd done himself. He just like to know what goes on in here. And he was raised with 3 sisters, so he just gets curious. And he's silly ;)<strong> He actually wanted me to tell him once what it was like when I have my TOM. The only man in life to ask me that besides my Gyno.</strong>
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]


Haha, I think it's kind of cool that he's curious in a way. Like he wants to be able to relate.

My FI has never asked me what it's like. But I've made sure to tell him what it's like (pain wise) anyway. I figure it would help to make him better prepared to handle me when I suddenly break down crying for no apparent reason.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions, Perhaps? : No dont Any! He loved your posts seriously! You are really the only person her remembered besides OWN, only because he met her IRL. He thought your answers were great.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

Yes! I win the internet.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions, Perhaps? : Haha, I think it's kind of cool that he's curious in a way. Like he wants to be able to relate. My FI has never asked me what it's like. But I've made sure to tell him what it's like (pain wise) anyway. I figure it would help to make him better prepared to handle me when I suddenly break down crying for no apparent reason.
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

Oh he is very good at that time, very considerate. He once told me he'd like to be a woman for one month just to be able to relate. He's weird but I gotta love him.

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[QUOTE]I confess that I'm secretly really happy that H and his ex-girlfriend from high school/college are no longer friends on Facebook. I don't know who did the defriending and I don't want to ask H because if she did it he probably didn't even notice lol. But I didn't want her seeing our wedding pictures and stuff. She used to call him and talk to him a lot when we were in the early stages of our relationship and I feel like she is a shady person in general.
Posted by K Byte[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't be comfortable with that either. Flame me for being the jealous type, but yeah, it would make me feel weird. H's ex (who he had broken up with a good 2 years before we ever met) called him at the holidays when she came into town to see if they could meet up, knowing I was his girlfriend. Then she'd email pictures of her on vacation in her bikini, bra, whatever. He asked me to block her, and I gladly did.

K Byte

Yeah Sesh I feel like I shouldn't be bothered by it because she (the ex) is also married, but she is definitely the type of person who really likes male attention and tends to "keep guys around" so to speak.

Somewhat related confession, but I confess I'm thrilled over the moon that we aren't going to H's 10 year high school reunion. It's the Saturday after Thanksgiving which means his parents would want us to be there pretty much all weekend barf, and I seriously do not like his hometown, it's kind of dangerous and there are a lot of bad neighborhoods.

526SadieSadie

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[QUOTE]The money/decision thing doesn't seem so weird to me.  For FI and I, making money decisions together is important, because I'm neurotic and controlling.  But in other areas, it's not a fifty-fifty, decide together kind of thing.  We each have our strengths and defer to each other in some regards. 
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]

Would you be ok with someone outright telling you what to do/what not to do with the money you earn?  I wouldn't.

Nebb

I tell my husband all the time how our money is going to be spent, thats just our dynamic. its OUR money, and he gets that. Sometimes he balks if he has something particular he wanted to do with it instead, and we discuss, but generally he lets me handle it completely. He is getting a comic payment soon and I told him flat out that more than half of it is going directly into savings for our trip, and he just shrugged. Just because one couple manages their money one way, doesnt mean all should do the same. Every relationship has their own dynamic.

SEWF

I confess to eating the same thing for lunch for the past six months. First I was saving for a trip to New York. We went in August. FI proposed there on August 1. So now I've been eating PB&J, goldfish crackers, and yogurt five days a week for six months, trying to save money for the wedding. And it will probably continue until the wedding in April. I'm kind of sick of PB&J...

Nebb

Case in point (my previous point) - my husband got one amount due for his credit card online, and just recieved the paper version today and its like 100$ more. He was totally cool with paying the lower amount because the internet said so. If I didnt rule our finances with an iron fist, we would be destitute. I love my husband, but he is a lazy dunce sometimes.

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]I confess to eating the same thing for lunch for the past six months. First I was saving for a trip to New York. We went in August. FI proposed there on August 1. So now I've been eating PB&J, goldfish crackers, and yogurt five days a week for six months, trying to save money for the wedding. And it will probably continue until the wedding in April. I'm kind of sick of PB&J...
Posted by SEWF[/QUOTE]

This is the cutest thing I've ever read. :) It would be different if it wasn't the lunch of a 6yr old. I love all these things, and I can't imagine eating them until I'm sick of them to save $. You are awesome!

I confess that I'm a horrible, awful grouch inside this week because of money and waiting to hear about that job. I haven't said anything out loud, because DH is miserable this week because of his work. Just when I get pissed off that he's whiney this week, he shows up with my 3 favorite deisgner magazines and a Jiminy Cricket Christmas ornament. So, great. Now I have guilt!

NatesGirl16

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions, Perhaps? : Would you be ok with someone outright telling you what to do/what not to do with the money you earn?  I wouldn't.
Posted by 526SadieSadie[/QUOTE]
I already said that I personally wouldn't, which is why we handle money together.  It works for some people, though, to have one person in control of the finances. 

I'm pretty sure my point was clear.

cupcakesfrosting

I confess that I hate my uterus right now. No wonder I've been feeling so sick lately.

I also confess, that I'm tired of being 50lbs overweight, but I have no motivation to do anything about it. I'm tired of being fat, but too tired to do anything needed to change it.

katiewhompus

I confess that I make most of the financial decisions in the house. I took over our finances pretty much the second we moved in together because H is ridiculous with money. I gave him a Christmas budget and he pretty much just hands over the checks. We do work together for big purchases, but at this point pretty much everything goes straight into savings.