Good Morning!

LesPaul

I'd say yes, Mara - the shower invite after the wedding invite sounds normal.

I didn't get invited to FDIL's shower last week.  I'm not real happy about that.

LetsHikeToday

Mara- Showers around here are usually way before the wedding so we get the wedding invite second.

shaydenise

Mara, the invites for the shower my MIL hosted went out before the wedding invite.  The shower was in August and our wedding was late October so our wedding invites would have had to go out ridiculously early if we'd wanted them to go out prior to the shower invite.

maratea

Maybe it's a regional thing. I've never received a shower invite before the wedding invite, but all those weddings have been in IN and most showers take place 3-4 weeks before the wedding, with invites going out maybe 3 weeks before the shower.

This wedding is in NY, so maybe that's why there's a difference. No biggie, I was just wondering. I can't go to the shower anyway, but (assuming we get invited) we'll be going to the wedding.

LesPaul- As in your stepson's future wife?

Blueyed228

Mara- I think you are right about it being regional.  If I got a wedding invite before the shower invite I would think its weird, lol

cheeseandrice

Blue- I need a link to that blog.

Les- was it your stepson's future wife? Will stepson's mom be there? Is that why? I know it was awkward for me to figure out who to invite to my shower. My mom actually had it at her house. We ended up inviting my stepmom, but she couldn't make it.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]Blue- I need a link to that blog. Les- was it your stepson's future wife? Will stepson's mom be there? Is that why? I know it was awkward for me to figure out who to invite to my shower. My mom actually had it at her house. We ended up inviting my stepmom, but she couldn't make it.
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dmiller9274

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[QUOTE]Maybe it's a regional thing. I've never received a shower invite before the wedding invite, but all those weddings have been in IN and most showers take place 3-4 weeks before the wedding, with invites going out maybe 3 weeks before the shower. This wedding is in NY, so maybe that's why there's a difference. No biggie, I was just wondering. I can't go to the shower anyway, but (assuming we get invited) we'll be going to the wedding. LesPaul- As in your stepson's future wife? :(
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]
That's pretty much how it is around here, too. My shower was only about 4 weeks before the wedding, and I think I my sister sent the invites about 3 days after I finished sending all the wedding invitations. I remember her asking me when it was ok to go ahead and send the shower invites.<div>
</div><div>All of the multiples in our family are fraternal except one set of twins. Identical triplets would be cool....for someone else to have :)</div>

LesPaul

Yes, stepson's wife.  It's probably because he refuses to acknowledge I'm a member of the family.  He's decided the most he's willing to do in regards to any relationship with me is 'be cordial'. 

It's fine - I have come to terms with how dysfunctional this family is, and I've moved on.  Sometimes you have to give up on people because they just don't care.  At least I got invited to the wedding.

brandichamberlain

I have always wondered how people are able to tell their identical children apart.  I would be the one to get them all confused and mixed up.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]Yes, stepson's wife.  It's probably because he refuses to acknowledge I'm a member of the family.  He's decided the most he's willing to do in regards to any relationship with me is 'be cordial'.  It's fine - I have come to terms with how dysfunctional this family is, and I've moved on.  Sometimes you have to give up on people because they just don't care.  At least I got invited to the wedding.
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Sorry Les, you probably would have been miserable anyway. And your H kids are brats anyway (am I right)?

LesPaul

Yes, they are, kd.  He has taken the stance that he didn't choose me to be in his life, so I'm just his Dad's new baggage.  Well, buddy, you don't get to choose your family.  He didn't choose his parents, he didn't choose his sister, and he didn't choose his FI's parents either. 

I used to really beat myself up over it - 'why don't they like meeeeeee???'  But I've come to realize I'm not the one who is messed up.  I'm disappointed all of us don't have a better relationship - all the kids are close in age and we could have so much more, but if they aren't willing to go there, then there's nothing I can do about it.  Accept what you cannot change.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]Yes, they are, kd.  He has taken the stance that he didn't choose me to be in his life, so I'm just his Dad's new baggage.  Well, buddy, you don't get to choose your family.  He didn't choose his parents, he didn't choose his sister, and he didn't choose his FI's parents either.  I used to really beat myself up over it - 'why don't they like meeeeeee???'  But I've come to realize I'm not the one who is messed up.  I'm disappointed all of us don't have a better relationship - all the kids are close in age and we could have so much more, but if they aren't willing to go there, then there's nothing I can do about it.  Accept what you cannot change.
Posted by LesPaul[/QUOTE]

Or as my mother always said, how many times you going to go to the cupboard to find out it's still empty...one of many doozies my mom would spew forth!