I wish.....

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I wish my best friend would find a guy who treated her right. She goes from toxic relationship to toxic relationship and gets more and more hurt each time. I think she has "daddy issues" and suffers from poor self-worth because her mom treats her terribly, so she settles for losers. This is why I don't trust the much older guy she's now with, and I hope he's not just using her. She drives me buts, but really she's incredibly sweet and loving so it's hard to see her get hurt.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : Well now, that's just poor planning
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]
you ain't kiddin'.
::shakes fist at self::

dmiller9274

I wish for all of the previous wishes to come true!

I wish that Anna would move to Ohio, because I'm pretty sure we could be great friends. 

I wish all children had parents that loved them as much as the moms on this board love and adore their children.

I wish Lala would come around more often. 

I wish the winning scratch off I have in my purse had a few extra 0's on it. 

mehgank

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : If this was happening in my family I have no idea how I would handle it - in fact, I'd probably be a mess.  This is just truly awful.  I wish there was something I could do :( She definitely needs an intervention, hard core. 
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

We've actually done two inverventions, the last one was in 2008, where she went to rehab for 6 months. She was doing really well for a while after she got out of rehab, but when her husband got out of rehab himself, she let him start living with her and that's when her downward spiral started all over again.

The only times she ever calls or texts me is to ask me for money. I hate that our relationship has dwindled to that. I live 3,000 miles away from her, but if I didn't, you better believe I'd be all up in her business, helping her get back on her feet. I'm just ill-equipped, and I feel utterly helpless.

I am thisclose to calling A&E and getting her on their Intervention show.

maratea

I wish someone would buy our house.

I wish I had vacation time and money so I could get the hell out of Indiana for Christmas.

I wish H would just cut ties with his family. They are terrible people and there's no reason for us to try to keep fostering a good relationship with them.

MISSCOURTNEY20

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[QUOTE]I wish I could hit the biggest lottery ever so that I could help out all the family and friends I have that are struggling so much. I wish there was a cure for cancer, <strong>Altzheimers,</strong> and HIV. I wish I could lose the weight for the wedding by eating donuts. I wish that all SB brides would have the wedding of their dreams followed by uncomplicated pregnancies. I wish resolution to all of our family drama!!!
Posted by mica001[/QUOTE]

I wish this would have happened 30 years ago. Maybe then my dad would be here to walk me down the aisle and I wouldn't cry watching SYTTD when the dads are there helping with wedding plans.

staceytaylor0704

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[QUOTE]Thanks ladies. It's gotten so bad that she has no more bottom teeth left (they're worn down to nubs) and I only recently found out that she and her husband (read: enabler) are squatting. Before then, the last I heard, she was supposed to be doing some prison time for petty theft and drug posession, then going into rehab. That's why my mom volunteered to take her kids in. That was over a year ago. It tears me up inside that she won't be one of my bridesmaids. She has completely cut herself off from the rest of my family, except for my mom. I still remember her as this bright, smiley girl with light in her eyes. I don't even recognize her now, and it breaks my heart.
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

Aww, mehgan.. I'm so sorry :( I seriously am about to cry.. I can't imagine either of my sisters this way.
My heart is breaking for you. I pray- I will add her to my list if you are okay with that :)

ReneeJacob

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[QUOTE]I was sitting here at my desk and had a thought "I<strong> wish I was able to take off work until after the honeymoon. There is so much that I could be doing.</strong> I wish the weather is Chicago is nice on our wedding day so that we can go to the park and get some pics outside with the trees and fall colors. Now..you make a wish.....
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

That's my wish too! I actually feel angry driving into work now because of all the things I need to be doing besides working lol

mehgank

Thanks Stacey, we could use all the prayers we can get.

What's hardest for me is feeling like a hypocrite. I've never been addicted to any substance of any kind, so I know that whatever I tell her about rehabilitation and abstaining from the lifestyle will just go in one ear and out the other.

staceytaylor0704

I wish there was a shower in my office so I could take one after my lunch walks. Ick.

I wish my sister and all the knotties who want babies and are having problems would be able to get pg.

I wish my mom liked me and could be involved in my wedding stuff. I also wish my sister would come to my wedding.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : We've actually done two inverventions, the last one was in 2008, where she went to rehab for 6 months. She was doing really well for a while after she got out of rehab, but when her husband got out of rehab himself, she let him start living with her and that's when her downward spiral started all over again. The only times she ever calls or texts me is to ask me for money. I hate that our relationship has dwindled to that. I live 3,000 miles away from her, but if I didn't, you better believe I'd be all up in her business, helping her get back on her feet. I'm just ill-equipped, and I feel utterly helpless.<strong> I am thisclose to calling A&E and getting her on their Intervention show.</strong>
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]


Why not call them?  Everything else you have tried hasn't worked. 

I am so sorry you're going through this :(

mehgank

I wish I lived in an area that I could wear sweater dresses with tights and ankle booties without sweating my ever-luvin' ass off. I haven't worn a sweater in over a year. Same goes for scarves, gloves, hats, and all that other fun Fall fashion. Boo...

staceytaylor0704

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[QUOTE]Thanks Stacey, we could use all the prayers we can get. What's hardest for me is feeling like a hypocrite. I've never been addicted to any substance of any kind, so I know that whatever I tell her about rehabilitation and abstaining from the lifestyle will just go in one ear and out the other.
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

Whats her name? (you don't have to tell me if you don't feel comfortable, I can just pray for Mehgan's sister. :))

Yea, its just a really difficult situation. Ultimately, she is the one who has to take control of her life and make the decision to change.... until then, anything anyone says to her isn't going to matter..

MISSCOURTNEY20

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[QUOTE]I wish there was a shower in my office so I could take one after my lunch walks. Ick. I wish my sister and all the knotties who want babies and are having problems would be able to get pg.<strong> I wish my mom liked me and could be involved in my wedding stuff. I also wish my sister would come to my wedding.</strong>
Posted by staceytaylor0704[/QUOTE]

Explain please!! This does not make me like your mom very much right now.

MISSCOURTNEY20

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[QUOTE]I wish I lived in an area that I could wear sweater dresses with tights and ankle booties without sweating my ever-luvin' ass off. I haven't worn a sweater in over a year. <strong>Same goes for scarves, gloves, hats, and all that other fun Fall fashion. Boo...</strong>
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

We can trade places any fall/winter you would like. I promise after one winter in the Chi, you will be high tailing it back to FL. PROMISE!!!!

mehgank

Her name is Mary and her husband's name is Shaun. Kids are Ashley, Austin and Aric (pronounced Ay-rik), if you wanted to throw them in there too. They're having a rough time of it, too.

staceytaylor0704

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : Explain please!! This does not make me like your mom very much right now.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

courtney, its a really long and sad story that starts back in 1997.. involving my parents divorcing, false allegations, its just a mess.
I am 99% sure that my mom has borderline personality disorder, but she thinks nothing is wrong- so its not like she will ever be diagnosed with it. If I ever said that to her, she would tell me that I'm the one that has that or something. It just sucks.

staceytaylor0704

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[QUOTE]Her name is Mary and her husband's name is Shaun. Kids are Ashley, Austin and Aric (pronounced Ay-rik), if you wanted to throw them in there too. They're having a rough time of it, too.
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]


Okay.
I can only imagine what the kids are dealing with. :(

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : We've actually done two inverventions, the last one was in 2008, where she went to rehab for 6 months. She was doing really well for a while after she got out of rehab, but when her husband got out of rehab himself, she let him start living with her and that's when her downward spiral started all over again. The only times she ever calls or texts me is to ask me for money. I hate that our relationship has dwindled to that. I live 3,000 miles away from her, but if I didn't, you better believe I'd be all up in her business, helping her get back on her feet. I'm just ill-equipped, and I feel utterly helpless.<strong> I am thisclose to calling A&E and getting her on their Intervention show.</strong>
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

<div>You should. They have lots of resources that regular people don't have.</div>

MISSCOURTNEY20

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : courtney, its a really long and sad story that starts back in 1997.. involving my parents divorcing, false allegations, its just a mess. I am 99% sure that my mom has borderline personality disorder, but she thinks nothing is wrong- so its not like she will ever be diagnosed with it. If I ever said that to her, she would tell me that I'm the one that has that or something. It just sucks.
Posted by staceytaylor0704[/QUOTE]

Gotcha. Well I guess it really isn't something she can control then huh? FH's mom has the same problem and they have no contact. He actually didn't know where she was until my aunt figured out that his mom was her cleaning lady. This is after 13 years of no contact. He still wants to have nothing to do with her.

I will be praying for you guys.

staceytaylor0704

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : Gotcha. Well I guess it really isn't something she can control then huh? FH's mom has the same problem and they have no contact. He actually didn't know where she was until my aunt figured out that his mom was her cleaning lady. This is after 13 years of no contact. He still wants to have nothing to do with her. I will be praying for you guys.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

Yea, see thats the thing thats hard for me is that I don't understand why she can't control her behaviour. Since I started reading a little more about BPD, it makes sense and it has made me not be so angry with her, but its still really hard to deal with.. I just don't get why she can't be normal, ya know?
I can understand your FI's situation then- its rough because I do want a relationship with her, but she makes it hellish to have one.. so yea.
Thank you :)

RYoung1485

I wish I had a new job.

I wish FIwould just let me plan the whole wedding and he just show up on the day.

I wish my sisters were healthier and happier (post preggo probs )

I wish all SB glorious wedding and baby resolutions.

I wish I knew if I really wanted kids or not.

I wish my hound dogs were able to walk themselves.

I wish everyone's families were as supportive and loving as they ought to be.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : I wish this would have happened 30 years ago. Maybe then my dad would be here to walk me down the aisle and I wouldn't cry watching SYTTD when the dads are there helping with wedding plans.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]
aw :( I'm so sorry.

mehgank

jcb - Yes, I am very close with the two older ones (they're a girl 13, and a boy 11), but the youngest one (he's 5) I don't really know because he lived with my sister until recently. He's so adorable though, and has the cutest laugh. I recently sponsored the oldest one in cheerleading and for her dance classes too.

It seems that this has had the most effect on the middle boy. He has a lot of issues with being a compulsive liar and crybaby, and he's very physically aggressive. He once threw a kitten at my niece (my other sister's 5 year old daughter) and it cut her eye, so my older sister decided to limit their playtimes together until he can calm down.

A couple years ago when I was still living in the Seattle area near my family, I was driving the kids to church for Easter service, and they were being quiet, so I asked them what was wrong. Well Ashley told me that they had just seen "Daddy push Mommy to the floor and he was punching her head and kicking her tummy". I almost threw up I was so pissed. How dare anyone lay a hand on my sister. This has been going on for over a decade and this man disgusts me. He's a slimy weasel, totally the type of guy you see on those crime shows, and it sickens me that he's poisoning my family with his cancerous behavior.

He's actually lucky that he can still draw breath. My sister's dad (we have different fathers) is prior law enforcement, and a very large man, so it's only a matter of time before something major goes down. I think that's the main reason she and him have been avoiding our family.

kpwedkk

I wish DH would get a job the place where we reside, instead of cross country, since he didn't bother to look here, and was anxious to drive across 4 states to get back to his old job.

I wish the landscaping would be impervious to leaks, mostly leaks, and the plants would grow and grow and GROW

I wish a new Hyperbole and 1/2 would be posted soon!

I wish that everyone in the world could stop being angry, and know that what they have, what matters to them most, and cherish those moments that contain happiness, and joy, without adding to the suffering of others....

MISSCOURTNEY20

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : Yea, see thats the thing thats hard for me is that I don't understand why she can't control her behaviour. Since I started reading a little more about BPD, it makes sense and it has made me not be so angry with her, but its still really hard to deal with.. I just don't get why she can't be normal, ya know? I can understand your FI's situation then- its rough because I do want a relationship with her, but she makes it hellish to have one.. so yea. Thank you :)
Posted by staceytaylor0704[/QUOTE]

Anytime, sweets!

Lala, thanks. My dad and I weren't even that close but these times make me think of what could be. My mom is walking me down the aisle and I know there won't be a dry eye in the room,

mehgank

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[QUOTE]I wish DH would get a job the place where we reside, instead of cross country, since he didn't bother to look here, and was anxious to drive across 4 states to get back to his old job. I wish the landscaping would be impervious to leaks, mostly leaks, and the plants would grow and grow and GROW <strong>I wish a new Hyperbole and 1/2 would be posted soon! </strong>I wish that everyone in the world could stop being angry, and know that what they have, what matters to them most, and cherish those moments that contain happiness, and joy, without adding to the suffering of others....
Posted by kpwedkk[/QUOTE]

THIS!!

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I wish..... : Anytime, sweets! Lala, thanks. My dad and I weren't even that close but these times make me think of what could be. My mom is walking me down the aisle and I know there won't be a dry eye in the room,
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]
aww, yay for mom! that'll be emotional and sweet :)

mehgank

Awww thanks, I do what I can, but living literally in opposite corners of the U.S. hasn't been easy for us to keep up a close relationship with each other.

I did, however, buy all 5 of my nieces and nephews some cool school supplies, since I like to celebrate back-to-school with the same furvor that most people celebrate Christmas. I got them each a pencil box (girls got Hello Kitty, boys got super heroes) pencils, erasors, notebooks, and this really cool stationary, so now they HAVE to write me letters LOL (j/k).

playtntsbpg30

I wish my mom would grow up.
I wish my dad didn't have to leave to go back to KY this weekend.
I wish my back would heal fully so I could get a good job again, until then--I wish I could get this under control, get disability and try to live my life.

I wish too many things.