Some girls just suck at life. Vent.

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Have you ever tried to just talk to her about all of this ridiculousness?

MissDuke2012

I tried. The day she stole my dog. They live like 100 feet away. I saw him in the window. So I walked over and asked for my dog back. She lied to my face and told me she didn't have my dog. Well, about the time she opened the door to step out and fuss at me, he ran out the door.

So then I asked her what the deal was and she informed me that FI deserves better than me, the only reason he's marrying me is because of Cam, blah blah blah. I asked her nicely to leave us alone. She followed up with pouring potting soil into our freshly cleaned pool.

JenGin74

I only got through half of the first page, but my impression is that you're allowing her to dictate how you live your life (not going home if FI isn't there, etc).

You basically have two choices. You can either be passive and let it continue, or you can involve the police EVERY time she does something.

A third option would be to show her what crazy really is and bust her face up, but I advise against that (for now).

katiewhompus

Really late to the game but here's my two cents.

Part of protecting your family is taking legal action to protect it. We don't live in a day and age where he could launch a war against her house, or shoot her for vandalism. We are given necessary measures for protection and it doesn't mean less of you if you take them. If she's already this crazy after a short time it's very possible this could escalate. How is he going to feel if she harms your dog, or, heaven forbid, your child? Get the freaking restrainer order before it's too late.

Call the cops and document every single case of vandalism, threatening behavior, or trespassing. Take pictures and think about installing hidden video cameras in the areas surrounding your pool, driveway, and entrance ways.

Don't continue playing the victim because there are steps you can take to deal with this. If nothing else you may want to consider moving.

Nebb

You had better keep us updated on how this turns out! If you dont ill put dirt in your pool.

SCBojangles1138

When my parents were newly weds, one of Dad's ex's kept calling the house but not identifying herself. Once or twice Mom picked up. Mom had the phone tapped and then once they ID'd the ex, the police called the ex telling her to knock it off. Idk if this is legal in NC but its a different ish idea. If you didn't have a dog, I'd suggest a trail/hunting camera.

Spend lots of quality time with a good lawyer. Best of luck to you.

leayn

I would not be able to stop myself from smashing her face in.  I have no self control.

marinabreeze

I would agree with the pps...document everything, install cameras, monitor everything.  Once you get proof, go to the police and also get a lawyer. 

Question...if your FI considers it a bitch move to file a RO because of the idea that he's not protecting his family, then what is he doing to protect is family?

kimheartsscott

So, your daughter is living with your friend right?  And you pulled her out of school?  Is this because of the neighbor?  Because seriously, I'm shocked you waited this long, nice-neighbor-relationship or not.  She STOLE your DOG and called the cops on you about your CHILD.

I am amazed you are asking a forum about this and not taking action.

Mioh1

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[QUOTE]I would not be able to stop myself from smashing her face in.  I have no self control.
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That's true. I would've given her a good punch in the face the moment my dog ran out of her house. It seems like she's enjoying the fact she's not letting her ex and you be happy. All you can do is get a camera installed, I'm sure she's not smart enough to notice it but if she does hope she doesn't destroy it before destroying more property. Just keep insisting on a restraining order because it's not fair to not be able to sleep in peace in your own house. Good luck!

missy68

But being on Seroquel is no excuse for this behavior. That puts a bad light on others who take the medication. ITs prescribed for a multitude of reasons. You can't assume anything from that. I've been on it before a long time ago, and even my grandmother has been on it - she isn't stealing anyone's dog at 89. She was just hallucinating at night.

It would be more that she isn't taking prescribed medication for any condition she might have that would cause these behaviors.

MissDuke2012

That's not why Cam came out of daycare. And she isn't living with a friend. She's staying with my friend because its easier to take her 15 minutes down the road than meet my mom 30-45 minutes down the road just for her to go to daycare.

We'll have cameras up first thing in the morning. We called our security company and they said nobody will notice them unless they know where they're located. I requested the installers wear regular clothes, maybe she won't realize whats going on. We'll have acess to the videos at any time. There will be 4 cameras. All angles should be covered.

We meet with a lawyer on Wednesday morning.

kimheartsscott

Ooh, I see.  The other poster said school so I didn't even think day care. 

That's good about the cameras!  Hopefully she doesn't wise up and start wearing ski masks or anything.