So I mentioned in the morning thread yesterday about "N", who is the wife of one of FI's high school friends. N was a huge biitch to me on Sunday night and more or less attacked me out of nowhere (because she didn't like the stance I had on a debate we were having) and rattled off a list of hurtful things like I'm a hypocrite, that I'm a huge fake, that I'm only pretending to be Catholic for FI's family, that there's no way FI truly knows the woman he is marrying and that I have no idea how much her and the rest of the group doesn't like me. (Group being FI's high school buddies and their wives/fiancees). APparently they only have been nice to me to my face to keep FI happy and they don't even like FI when I'm around.
I took all of this as her just being a biitch as usual. I called her out on it, asking her why the hell saying all that was even necessary and I pointed out that all it did was make her look like an ass and me feel like shiit and it solved nothing. She came back and claimed that she didn't mean for me to feel like shiit. I didn't even respond at that point because she is either a huge liar or dumb as fuuck.
N is really close with M who is the fiancee of FI's best friend (C) from high school. M and C live in the same town as us and we work out with them regularly and get together every so often to go bowling or have dinner or whatever. M is normally a very polite person who has hid it very well if she doesn't like me. FI decided to talk to C (his friend) and find out if he knew about any of this. He said M told him about it but he didn't get details. I then discover M has also deleted me from facebook, which means one of two things. 1) N was telling the truth that everyone can't stand me andd M figured there's no point anymore now that the cat was out of the bag or 2) N told M about our fight but somehow lied and twisted it to me being the biitch and saying hurtful things.
I know the easy answer is to not care what they think. And honestly, if anyone would treat me like that, I don't even want to be friends with them. But our group gets together all the time. At least a couple times a year. And now it's going to be hella awkward. Especially with N who has blantatly treated me like crap. She obviously has no support for our relationship so I don'te ven want her at the wedding, but that's not an option as STDs have been sent and we're still inviting her husband.
A part of me wants to talk to M and see what N really told her. M doesn't seem like the type to do any of that stuff without good reason, so I really think it's possible N is really the ringleader in all the ish that is going down and is trying to fuel a non-existent fire.
I'm sorry this is long and I commend any of you who have read it. I partly needed to vent, and I partly just don't know what to do anymore.