Engagement Parties

GoldenCityDreamer

Is anyone else hosting their own engagement party? I don't see why I would expect to burden someone else with that task... But I really don't know if that's okay.

Stina51286

Technically according to etiquette, you aren't supposed to host your own party or ask someone to host one for you.

We aren't having one. I don't think they are really necessary.

GoldenCityDreamer

For us it seems neccesary. We live 5 hours away from my family and my sibligs are dispursed thoughout the state.

I feel like an engagement party is an excellent opportunity for my siblings to met him and his siblings, for our friends to meet for the first time and other blending of worlds firsts and so my immediate family has a chance to say "congratulations" in person (because I know they want to).

My maid of honor is also a kid, 3 years my junior, so if she planned anything it would be my parents or me paying for it anyway...

why is it impolite to host the engagment party ourselves. There are all of these rules most of which I don't understand the logic behind

dewingedpixie

Fiance's Family had a picnic when we got back. We had a house warming bbq at our house. But neither was an engagement party and we're fine with that. The party is the wedding

dewingedpixie

Engagement parties are formal introductions and typically gift giving events. This is why its rude. Engagements used to be formal contracts so the family would announce them in a formal manner brining families together.

Stina51286

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[QUOTE]Engagement parties are formal introductions and typically gift giving events. This is why its rude. Engagements used to be formal contracts so the family would announce them in a formal manner brining families together.
Posted by dewingedpixie[/QUOTE]

This

GoldenCityDreamer

There's no dowery involved does that change things X-D? lol

UPDATE: I talked to our families about us hosting our own engagment party and they loved the idea. They're defininately more concerned with meeting each other and logistics than they are with us hosting our own parties. It's going to be a small party just our wedding party and immediate family & their families and our A list guests and our local guests.

We're realizing for us defaulting to "traditon" isn't our family's style. Oh the possibilities!

dewingedpixie

B lists is also an ettiquette faux pas.

Technically law wise you have formed a verbal contract by agreeing to marry him. We no longer sue for that (often anymore), but you also most likely received payment for your promise by gift of a ring which is sort of like a dowry. Things are not as different as we often think .

I personally view my engagement as a formal contract, but I'm rather old fashioned. The engagement is private vow, the wedding the public affirmation of that in my opinion. For me my engagement ring, and his engagement gift means we're already contractly together and the wedding is our celebration and public declaration of that. Prior to our engagement we discussed how we would want a married life together, budgets, etc. My fiance feels the same way on these things. In fact the other day he accidently called me the wife which was cute.

GoldenCityDreamer

What I ment by A list guests are the guests that would be willing to drive 5 hours just to attend a small party. The ones that are completely willing to go out of their way for us. Other guests would rather attend to their own lives and new years parties and may only attend the ceremony and reception in our whole wedding weekend. And that's fine.

Everyone who is invited to the wedding is invited to the pre-parties. They A list and B list themselves. I just know already the people who are ready to hop in the car for the road trip 5 hours each way, (or 16 hours, or 23 hours) and those who are just going to call. I'm budgeting accordingly. Everyone's getting an invitation reguardless of distance and likelyhood of attending.

Very negatively assumptuous crowed we have today.

GoldenCityDreamer

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[QUOTE]B lists is also an ettiquette faux pas. Technically law wise you have formed a verbal contract by agreeing to marry him. We no longer sue for that (often anymore), but you also most likely received payment for your promise by gift of a ring which is sort of like a dowry. [/QUOTE]

Lol I didn't get a ring when we got engaged. He asked I said yes. I do wear a ring that is borrowed from his grandmother (as of recently) for conversational purposes. I intend on giving it back to his grandmother before the ceromony.

Stina51286

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[QUOTE] In fact the other day he accidently called me the wife which was cute.
Posted by dewingedpixie[/QUOTE]

Fi's friends call me this all the time or random strangers will call me his wife. I was caught off guard one day when he didn't correct them.

texie1203

I purchased a home in May & it is in the process of being renovated.  I had purchased the home before FI & I got engaged but we were dating & he was going to move in with me as a roommate.  I've had several friends tell me that I need to have a housewarming party.  So once the renovations are completed I plan on hosting an engagement/housewarming party.  Hosting it like a potluck type dinner. 

I plan on inviting more to the party than I do to the wedding.  The wedding is going to be for family & immediate friends only.

My FI accidently called me his wife a few months before he asked me.  I thought it was cute!!   He asked me to marry him before he had a ring.  We picked it out together.

Hope this helps!

Stina51286

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[QUOTE]I purchased a home in May & it is in the process of being renovated.  I had purchased the home before FI & I got engaged but we were dating & he was going to move in with me as a roommate.  I've had several friends tell me that I need to have a housewarming party.  <strong>So once the renovations are completed I plan on hosting an engagement/housewarming party.  Hosting it like a potluck type dinner.  I plan on inviting more to the party than I do to the wedding.</strong>  The wedding is going to be for family & immediate friends only. My FI accidently called me his wife a few months before he asked me.  I thought it was cute!! :)  He asked me to marry him before he had a ring.  We picked it out together. :) Hope this helps! :)
Posted by texie1203[/QUOTE]

If you are inviting more people to this engagement/housewarming party than the wedding then it shouldn't be considered an engagement party too. Anyone invited to all pre-wedding events is supposed to be invited to the wedding also. If one of your friends invited you to her engagement party or shower wouldn't you expect to be invited to the wedding too? I would.

libby18bell

We were in a similar pickle, in that my family lives 5 hours from where we live and his parents live an additional 2 hours beyond us.  We just did a small lunch/dinner get together with his parents and his siblings at my future-in-laws' home (he and I weren't living together yet and both our places were too small to host) a weekend when my parents came up to visit us after we got engaged.  It was more a time for the parents to meet each other and we just kept it casual, no talk about weddings or any of the big plans since we had more than a year and half to go at that point. 

I guess I always see engagement parties as the bride and groom wanting more gifts, which if they do to each their own.  Also I don't see not traveling 5 hours for an egagement party as a B person.  A wedding is a big deal, a union of two people and people will travel for that, but it doesn't make sense to make people feel guilty for not traveling for an egagement party.  When it's just a celebration of you saying yes, if you want to do a meet and greet with the bridal party and the family, then I suggest a small intimate dinner, no outside guests if they aren't involved in the wedding or family.

GoldenCityDreamer

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[QUOTE]Hosting it like a potluck type dinner.  I plan on inviting more to the party than I do to the wedding.  The wedding is going to be for family & immediate friends only.
Posted by texie1203[/QUOTE]

That sounds like an awesome idea! Large engagment party and small wedding! PERFECT!
I love the idea of a housewarming/engagment parites! If gives people a milestone to associate with your engagment!
I also love that you're reducing the number of parties your friends and family have to attend by combining them. I can only imgagine they'd get tired of  attending John and Jane parties all year lol

GoldenCityDreamer

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[QUOTE] I guess I always see engagement parties as the bride and groom wanting more gifts, which if they do to each their own.  Also I don't see not traveling 5 hours for an egagement party as a B person.  A wedding is a big deal, a union of two people and people will travel for that, but it doesn't make sense to make people feel guilty for not traveling for an egagement party.  When it's just a celebration of you saying yes, if you want to do a meet and greet with the bridal party and the family, then I suggest a small intimate dinner, no outside guests if they aren't involved in the wedding or family.
Posted by libby18bell[/QUOTE]

I think you all would be happier if I called it " A New Years Party held in celebration of the engagment of the couple"  instead of an "Engagment Party for the Newly Engaged Couple" lol It is what it is AN ENGAGMENT PARTY. A small outing that bring our families together for the first time because we're engaged is still an Engagment Party.

My Engagment Party is going to be a New Years Eve, Family Meetting, Bridal Party & Back-Home-Friends Reunion. These people need to meet there's no way around it. Call it what you want but it's got to happen lol everyone knows it. My Bridesmaids, friends and family are already buzzing about what the other is like lol.

I don't want and can't afford all of my close friends to attend our wedding/reception. I have wayyy too many. This is the opportunity for all of my very close friends and family to intermingle. How about I call it "New Years Eve Social with hosts The Newly Engaged Couple"

Yall associate with some greedy greedsters lol

I feel like traditionally an Engagement Party should be seen as a party to celebrate an engagment. Which is all we want lol. It seems so simple and less dramatic than everyone is making it out to be. I didn't know that gifts were even associated with engagment parties until yall lol.

Stina51286

**headdesk**

Stina51286

http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/engaged/articles/engagement-party-etiquette-101.aspx

dewingedpixie

Technically an "engagement party" is a "formal announcement" of a "formal verbal consent/contract" which means it is not done by yourself but by your families. You do realize that in the past the wedding was just an informality after the engagement right? The actual marraige was the contract of engagement the woman was considered the future husband's property at that point.

This is why society is so rude these days. Everyone thinks that etiquette and common social decency doesn't apply to them. That they are higher than societal standards that have been in place for hundreds of years. Ranting about how you're so modern etc etc just makes you look naive and silly. Remember when standards were met there was also a lot less divorce, violence, and poorly behaved children in the world too. Sometimes being a little old fashioned is not just proper but nicer in general.

My family and his family have not met. We don't view this as an issue. The wedding is where we join two families into one. Oh I'm also making everyone drive 4-6 hours to my wedding and we're expecting over 100 guests so the whole driving thing is silly too.

lconoran

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Parties : . How about I call it "<strong>New Years Eve Social with hosts The Newly Engaged Couple</strong>" Yall associate with some greedy greedsters lol I feel like traditionally an Engagement Party should be seen as a party to celebrate an engagment. Which is all we want lol. It seems so simple and less dramatic than everyone is making it out to be. I didn't know that gifts were even associated with engagment parties until yall lol.
Posted by GoldenCityDreamer[/QUOTE]

I think this is a better option than calling it an engagement party. YOU may not have known that they were gift giving events, but your friends might. And I bet your friends will expect to be invited to the wedding too if you call it an engagement party. It's not a difficult topic. It's very clear. Don't invite people to pre-wedding celebrations that aren't being invited to the wedding. Call it a New Year's party and have a blast.

dewingedpixie

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[QUOTE]**headdesk**
Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]

I feel your pain

libby18bell

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[QUOTE]IDon't invite people to pre-wedding celebrations that aren't being invited to the wedding. Call it a New Year's party and have a blast.
Posted by lconoran[/QUOTE]

<div>Perfectly stated.  I for one would be insulted if I was invited to an "Engagement Party" and not the actual wedding.</div>

GoldenCityDreamer

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[QUOTE]**headdesk**
Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]
You're definately the traditional bride. Just be happy that since your wedding is traditional people will remember it as such. X-D Not every wedding is going to be cookie cutter, not ever pre-party is going to be system standard.

Lol I really feel like we are in the generation that it's cool to not get married in a chapel and still be christian, it's alright to have a very private ceremony if you can't aford to pay for the million and one friends and family that you have accumulated over the years, to host your own darn parties especially they aren't actual surprises anymore (Surprise we are following traditional etiquete based on these bridal party roll cards you sent us), to opt out of the male anatomy props at bachelorette parties, it's cool to not have wedding cake at the reception, that no one gets offended when the fork and the soup spoon are in the wrong locations, to have weddings without flowers, to break every tradition because your relationships isn't traditional eigther, to not do a guarter toss, to opt out of a bridal portrait session, to not wear a white dress, to write your own vows, to write your own ceremony, and to have a trashy college party style after party with beer pong and pjs because that's what's fun for you.

GoldenCityDreamer

Well all in all my bridesmaids, family, and friends think its a great idea. Our family and friends all have different views of the world, mine thinks its great that I'm not waiting for someone else to spend money hosting a party in my honor. 

We feel like it's more rude to exclude people from celebrating with you becasue they didn't make it to get guest list than to invite them so some events and not others. That's B-listing with out associating with the B-listers.

A hundred twenty years ago we would have a colored side and a whites side at our ceremony & our marriage may have been illegal, our homosexual bridesmaid wouldn't be allowed to wear a suit and stand on the grooms side, we wouldn't presently live together, and I wouldn't be able to persue my career dreams, Yeah right. It's a new world.

lconoran

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Parties : <strong>You're definately the traditional bride. Just be happy that since your wedding is traditional people will remember it as such</strong>. X-D Not every wedding is going to be cookie cutter, not ever pre-party is going to be system standard. Lol <strong>I really feel like we are in the generation that it's cool to not get married in a chapel and still be christian</strong>, <strong>it's alright to have a very private ceremony if you can't aford to pay for the million and one friends and family that you have accumulated over the years,</strong> to host your own darn parties especially they aren't actual surprises anymore (Surprise we are following traditional etiquete based on these bridal party roll cards you sent us),<strong> to opt out of the male anatomy props at bachelorette parties, it's cool to not have wedding cake at the reception, that no one gets offended when the fork and the soup spoon are in the wrong locations, to have weddings without flowers, to break every tradition because your relationships isn't traditional eigther, to not do a guarter toss, to opt out of a bridal portrait session, to not wear a white dress, to write your own vows, to write your own ceremony, </strong>and to have a trashy college party style after party with beer pong and pjs because that's what's fun for you.
Posted by GoldenCityDreamer[/QUOTE]

I'm not sure if you meant the first bolded part as an insult, but I consider myself a traditional bride and I do hope that comes across to my guests, that I will HOST, and HOST properly, at my WEDDING. The rest of the bolded part, I absolutely agree with and plan on doing/not doing some of that at my wedding, yet I'm still TRADITIONAL. The part that you are missing is, it is rude to have people celebrate your engagement, "Yeah, Congrats, when's the big day?" And then for you to basically say, "Oh, it's October XX 2013, but you won't see the wedding. But don't worry, there will be a keg and chips at the after party."

I think a "trashy college party style" reception for your guests is fine if that's your style and what you can afford (have it at an off meal time though if you are not serving a full meal, which is fine). Then throw that kind of wedding reception after all your friends/family that were at the engagement party, were at your actual wedding, and this says "thank you" to them for being there on that special day.

I do think that you should spend some time on the etiquette board.

dewingedpixie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Parties : I'm not sure if you meant the first bolded part as an insult, but I consider myself a traditional bride and I do hope that comes across to my guests, that I will HOST, and HOST properly, at my WEDDING. The rest of the bolded part, I absolutely agree with and plan on doing/not doing some of that at my wedding, yet I'm still TRADITIONAL. The part that you are missing is, it is rude to have people celebrate your engagement, "Yeah, Congrats, when's the big day?" And then for you to basically say, "Oh, it's October XX 2013, but you won't see the wedding. But don't worry, there will be a keg and chips at the after party." I think a "trashy college party style" reception for your guests is fine if that's your style and what you can afford (have it at an off meal time though if you are not serving a full meal, which is fine). Then throw that kind of wedding reception after all your friends/family that were at the engagement party, were at your actual wedding, and this says "thank you" to them for being there on that special day. I do think that you should spend some time on the etiquette board.
Posted by lconoran[/QUOTE]

This 110%

GoldenCityDreamer

Traditional is just a type of Bride, the same as a DIY, Rustic, or Vintage Bride. If you felt insulted sorry I was just referring to the concept that in order for someone to be a Traditional Bride there must also be brides that are non-traditional thus becoming a way to describe a brides style.

I hope you understand that it's okay to be a traditional traditional the same as it is okay to be a proud non-traditional bride.

the trashy college party is for the after reception party for when the older folks and parents of children go to bed... Our Reception is going to be table service costing us appoximately $72 a head on food alone and that's excluding coctail hour, breakfast, lunch and brunch the next morning (It's a wedding weekend).

And I feel like personally, if I had a close friend who was having a family only wedding. If I didn't even get an invite to her pre-parties I would be very annoyed than if I attended her pre-party to learn that she's having an exclusive wedding.

GoldenCityDreamer

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/rehearsal-dinner/qa/whos-hosts-engagement-party.aspx

Stina51286

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Parties : You're definately the traditional bride. Just be happy that since your wedding is traditional people will remember it as such. X-D Not every wedding is going to be cookie cutter, not ever pre-party is going to be system standard. Lol I really feel like we are in the generation that it's cool to not get married in a chapel and still be christian, it's alright to have a very private ceremony if you can't aford to pay for the million and one friends and family that you have accumulated over the years, to host your own darn parties especially they aren't actual surprises anymore (Surprise we are following traditional etiquete based on these bridal party roll cards you sent us), to opt out of the male anatomy props at bachelorette parties, it's cool to not have wedding cake at the reception, that no one gets offended when the fork and the soup spoon are in the wrong locations, to have weddings without flowers, to break every tradition because your relationships isn't traditional eigther, to not do a guarter toss, to opt out of a bridal portrait session, to not wear a white dress, to write your own vows, to write your own ceremony, and to have a trashy college party style after party with beer pong and pjs because that's what's fun for you.
Posted by GoldenCityDreamer[/QUOTE]

Hmm, Im the traditional style bride? Well not really. Im getting married in a historical park, not a church. With a Justice of Peace, not a priest, pastor, nothing religious. Im not having cake, I am not doing a bouquet toss, theres a lot about my wedding NON traditional. My father isn't even walking me down the aisle.

Go ahead and host your own engagement party. I am not your boss. You asked a question, we answered it. If you don't like the answer, get over it. It is the internet. You cannot control what people say.

But one thing, make sure you aren't rude to your guests by inviting them to the pre-wedding stuff and not the actual wedding. That is tacky and inconsiderate. Just basically asking for gifts, thats greedy right there. You may not realize it, but a lot of people associate engagement parties and showers as a gift giving event for the bride and groom as a congratulations whether you see it that way or not.

I know you are younger so maybe listen to some of the advice others give. Some of these women have been married before. I've been to plenty of friends/family weddings over the last three years to know what should and shouldn't happen (I've also helped plan some of them). Maybe go over to the etiquette board and ask them the same question. I cannot wait for their responses.

GoldenCityDreamer

Stina I get what you're saying. But it's the internet I don't have to settle for your answer if you're willing to discuss it. It's immature that you are hopeing to throw me under a barage of nit picky types that would love to tell me 500 reasons why their way is right instead of how everyone's different takes, circles of friends, and motivations could lead to a beautiful event. All for the sake of feeling right and justified.


http://thebridesguide.marthastewartweddings.com/2011/07/etiquette-can-you-host-your-own-engagement-party.html This article discribes your idea's of the Engagment Party and the comments that follow my ideas. No one defends the article... why?

Stina51286

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_engagement-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:49662623-673b-45ec-a12f-c934116b0af4Post:04e28b27-b941-4cb2-bb45-8a64ad7661ed">Re: Engagement Parties</a>:
[QUOTE]Stina I get what you're saying. But it's the internet I don't have to settle for your answer if you're willing to discuss it. <strong>It's immature that you are hopeing to throw me under a barage of nit picky types</strong> that would love to tell me 500 reasons why their way is right instead of how everyone's different takes, circles of friends, and motivations could lead to a beautiful event. All for the sake of feeling right and justified. <a href="http://thebridesguide.marthastewartweddings.com/2011/07/etiquette-can-you-host-your-own-engagement-party.html" rel="nofollow">http://thebridesguide.marthastewartweddings.com/2011/07/etiquette-can-you-host-your-own-engagement-party.html</a> This article discribes your idea's of the Engagment Party and the comments that follow my ideas. No one defends the article... why?
Posted by GoldenCityDreamer[/QUOTE]

I am not being immature and *hoping* to through you under a what? *Bridge*? No. I am trying to help your guests not feel left out. Sorry. TK is a place for honest answers, not always answers you want to hear.