So I am really trying hard not to be bridezilla and wanted to get your opinion on how to handle this.I have a bridesmaid who has been a bit of a problem from the start. She didn't attend the bridal shower after telling my MOH that morning that she woke up late and was hurrying to get there on time, then went MIA after it started and we couldn't get a hold of her until 10 pm that night. She gave me a whole big story that may or may not be true, but either way, she was supposed to attend and even had stuff she was supposed to bring and didn't (which my MOH was pretty upset about).Then my bachelorette party, we gave her plenty of notice when the date was going to be. A month beforehand, she says that she is going to be celebrating her birthday that weekend (her birthday was on Tuesday and my party was 5 days later on Saturday) in Austin instead so she wouldn't be able to make it. Deep down, my initial thought was: you have a birthday every year, and I'm having a bachelorette party once. But I didn't want to seem selfish so I tried to blow that one off, too.NOW, today- a couple weeks before my wedding, she sends me a text telling me that her niece's baptism (in Houston) is the Sunday morning after my wedding, so she's probably going to have to leave after the ceremony. I'm sorry, but I am almost speechless. Like, are you serious? You're really going to pull this crap 2 weeks before my wedding that you already committed to being a bridesmaid at?How do you handle this? I wish I could just tell her "no, that's really not cool and you already committed to do this for me." But at the same time, I'm now thinking, "fine, leave so I don't have to pay for your really nice meal that you obviously don't give a crap about."Would you even try to reason with her or just tell her "okay?" Don't want to be Bridezilla, but come on...TIA!