Feeling super fat and out of shape!

sigmaurse

Hi ladies. A few yrs ago I started eating healthy and working out and lost about 25lbs. Well not I've gained all but 20 pounds back in the last 6 months. I'm getting married in 5 months and would like to lose at least 30 pounds if not more. I'm the heaviest I've been in years and it's driving me nuts! Clothes that use to be baggy are now tight and I feel nothing but hate towards myself. Don't forget I'm feeling super fat! I feel like I'm stuck in a hole and won't get out. I know how to exercise and diet but I have no motivation despite feeling fat all the time with tight clothes. When tempted with a donut or sweets at work I just eat them! I KNOW it's dumb but I just can't stop myself! UGH I'm feeling really down at the moment. I need help!

firsttimersluck

You don't need help... You need motivation. We can't really help you too much with that. Like you said, you have lost weight before.. You know how to eat healthfully and work out. You just.... Have no will power at the moment. How did you find it the first time? 

mschoenf

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[QUOTE]You don't need help... You need motivation. We can't really help you too much with that. Like you said, you have lost weight before.. You know how to eat healthfully and work out. You just.... Have no will power at the moment. How did you find it the first time? 
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly!  Willpower is all it takes!  For me personally, it's thinking about my wedding day.  I often get really mad at myself if I skip a day of exercise or don't eat as well as I should.  I lurk on this board more often than I post but I know that the ladies on here provide great motivation! :)  Good luck! </div>

radleyboo

My advice to you is to find a type of exercise you really enjoy and try to recruit some friends.  Personally, my favorite exercise is group exercise at my gym (CardioKick, Zumba, Spin, etc.).  I have made some great friends there and enjoy seeing them a few times a week, that's definitely a huge part of my motivation.  I also use the LiveStrong app on my iPhone to track calories, water intake, and exercise.  It's really eye opening to see how many calories you're eating when you keep close track!  Try some different things and something will strike a chord, you can do it!  Good luck!

mbody

Honestly, just pick a day (sooner rather than later) and start. You know what you've got to do, now you just gotta do it. Once you start, and get into a routine, it will be much easier. You'll feel better, and your motivation will increase once you begin to see results.

Have you ever thought about a personal trainer? Group fitness classes can also help with motivation.

MrsSmithN2012

You are EXACTLY where I was a couple of weeks ago.  Are you a competitive person?  I am super competitive.  So, a friend of mine here at work told me about the My Fitness Pal website.  I joined, downloaded the app and am trying to do the right thing.  If I had somebody to "compete" with as far as eating right, doing my daily exercising, etc. then I would be way more motivated to do what I am supposed to be doing, rather than just doing it on my own.  I don't know if that makes any sense, but if you are interested, I will totally "compete" with you and we can work through this together!!  We don't have to do a weight loss competition because honestly, I don't need to lose weight....I need to lose inches and more than anything tone, tone, tone!  We could compete in other way though....like tracking our food intake, sticking to our work out routines, etc.  It could be really fun AND great for both of us   If you want to do this, just let me know.  My ID on the website is MrsSmith2012

ndure32

I completely understand how you feel, because I feel the exact same way. My wedding is 7 months away and I lack some serious motivation. I know I'm suppose to be giving you encouraging advice, but it's hard when I'm in the same boat. I think what might be happening is that because you still have 5 months to go to your wedding, there's not a sense of urgency to lose the weight. I know that's how I'm feeling. I'm an exathlete and personal trainer, so I know what I need to do to lose the weight but I'm just not doing it. I think the first step is to do your best to avoid eating bad food. I'm not saying that you can't enjoy a little dessert from time to time; just say no to any junk that you might have at work or on your way from your house to work. Make sure not to have any junk food at the house, therefore you won't be temped. And it you start craving something sweet, buy some of the weight watchers desserts or low fat pudding my favorite that works. One of the biggest things that you must not forget is to stay active. If you are a gym person get to the there at least 3 times a week. If the gym is not for you, buy some workout DVDs Jillian michaels really works or go for a walk. It's funny how I can give advice to people, but I don't take it myself. I promise once you do this for at least 3 weeks, it will become second nature. Good luck to you.

ndure32

I think I will join you in that competition if it's ok. I really need someone to motivate me. Im going to download the app now and I will find you.

Sassenach1743

First of all, your wedding day and your dress should be motivation enough! 

Second, you say you know how to eat and exercise... then just start doing it. Once you do you will feel so good to have made the initial effort. 

I know how you feel and am jumping into my own health/ fitness program right now. Here are some things that I do when I need to break a cycle of bad eating habits and laziness...

Try a 7 day cleanse (e.g. Cabbage Soup Diet) to jump start your program.

Start walking everyday, at least 30 mintues.

Join a Weight Watcher's, if you can, for accountability and points program (it works!) or try one of the Fitness/ Calorie counter apps that PPs have mentioned.

Just change your mindset about how you feel. Take action and make better choices. Before you know it you will be feeling better and seeing results. And I hate to burst your bubble but, 5 months is just barely enough time to lose as much as 30lbs. The clock is ticking...

anna.oskar

Most cleanses are crap.  Especially the Cabbage Soup Diet.

Do not do this.  A healthy and balanced diet by itself is all the "cleanse" you need.  That's your kidneys and liver's job.