Inappropriate Dancing

tbaby9898

Play classical music all night and NOOO BOOTY MUSIC!!!

JFH2010

I think it's very odd to dictate how people dance at a party you're throwing.  You can set the stage for the kind of evening you want, but it's definitely over the top (to quote PP) to step in and ask someone to dance differently. I hate the term "bridezilla' because I think people overuse it, but really, it's pretty accurate when you say, "this is MY party, people will dance how I want them to!" I understand that you don't want inappropriate behavior, but you've presumably invited adults to your wedding, so in my opinion you'll just have to trust them to behave like adults. 

Invol

I think it's strange that you feel the dancing would reflex on you and not the people dancing. So great aunt mildred will do it, she probably did some "risque" dancing in her day and she might even get a kick out of it with after a few drinks.

inspiriedangel

At my wedding i'm having the DJ announce the dancing time "Hey everyone come join the couple on the dance floor! and please try to keep the booty shakin G rated so everyone can have a good time!" or something along those lines. That way its not announced in a rude way but more to make everyone understand that it would be more fun not to watch you dry hump someone on the dance floor. I have children, teens, adults and elderly people at my wedding. And its also a christian wedding so i don't think its bad to ask my guests to keep their hormones under control

segerpark

Wow I agree with having a little fun and dancing however you want.  Its my wedding and I will be bumpen and grinden myself, and I hope others do too.  It is a party and celebration.  We have kids and they will be there dancing as well.  Once the older people and most kids have left then the party really starts.  You could keep it pg13 until the appropriate crowd remains. I CAN'T WAIT!     

bekahjane89

No worries, my fiance and I are integrating many lifestyles and family types together in our marriage. To keep things less stressful and both families happy we're already having 2 receptions (the first being your typical at the church cake and punch reception then dancing and drinking for the second). However, I'm still concerned about the "booty shaking" at my second reception. His family will be there, and while they enjoy dancing and drinking they will not appreciate anyone dancing that way, and I know myself well enough to know I'll be embarrased if it happens too. So I will tailor my music to none or almost no hip hop and rap music. Plus, I will talk to my wedding party (the ones I'm concerned about dancing like this) and expressly explain that since this is family oriented, this won't be tolerated.

mrskdoiron

I have to say this is the craziest board I've ever read. Seriously? Other people will dance in a way that I do not approve of, at a party that I am throwing for them to celebrate??

What if someone makes out on the dance floor? What if someone chews with their mouth open??

I"m sure there will be real things for you to stress out about on the day, besides setting up behavioural guidelines for adults. 

mszczepan2

My suggestion to curb innapropriate dancing is to play more family friendly music (chicken dance, twist). I personally would cross that bridge when you come to it. Let's face it, after a few drinks people tend to loose their judgement. Have a family member or friend police your event by giving the violator a friendly reminder. Or you can with hold the alcohol or limit alcohol consumption by holding a cocktail hour.

mflowers929

It's really interesting to see peoples suggestions on this matter. I'm 22 and I've ALWAYS thought that grinding was inappropriate, and I'm not comfortable doing it, let alone wathching it (yup, even at homecoming dances and stuff).
We're having a very small wedding with just family and close friends who I hope know our tastes, and our music choices aren't really conducive to grinding (light and classic rock and some softer metal, which I know sounds like an oxymoron to most, but if you're a metalhead, you'll understand), but I think I'll definitely ask my mom or dad to keep an eye out.

Kaydes Mommy

I don't think that it should be an issue. People can dance how they choose to. I'm the bride and I know my family dances like that. We are fun outgoing people and don't care to much about what people think. As long as it's not around the little ones. An occasional getting down kind of dancing is fun and entertaining.

Heater13

I'm not into bumping and grinding either.  It is not appropriate at a family event!!!  Frankly, even though you may be able to choose music that stays away from the bump and grind type stuff, if people are inconsiderate enough to think it's appropriate they'll bump and grind regardless.
My Solution:  I'm doing the word of mouth thing with my friends and putting one of my brides maids in charge of breaking up people who are being nasty (think cousins).
Good luck! :-)

dayzed_9

This seems like it shouldn't even be a big issue.  If you follow normal standards, you play the Frank Sinatra, etc. at the beginning of the reception, some classic rock/jazz/country in the middle and save the hip/hop booty-shaking music for the end of the night.  It solves all your problems...I would hope that your 80-year old gramma has turned in by then, your sister has enough sense to take her 5-year old home for bed and anyone who's left and willing to party can do so without making anyone else feel uncomfortable.  I just don't understand why everyone is making such a big deal out of this.  If your older, conservative relatives are still handing around after 10:00pm watching all the young people grinding on each other, perhaps they're not as innocent as you might think!  However, as said before, it's your day and do what you want but if you're going to spend your big night controlling what everone else does it's not going to be a good for you or anyone else.  At least give your guests a forewarning that it will be a clean-cut reception so that the ones who want to really celebrate won't come and then be disappointed with the limited fun allowed. I know that I would be really let-down if I traveled to a friend/relative's wedding only to find out that it was a dry, dance-free zone.  I would probably leave and go check out the down-town scene.

simsmegh

Totally agree.  Prioritize what you care about.  Let the little stuff go.  If you are focused on how your guests are dancing, you are focused on the wrong thing.  Relax a little and enjoy, any crap that goes on will just be laughed at later.

TankGirl88

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[QUOTE]This seems like it shouldn't even be a big issue.  If you follow normal standards, you play the Frank Sinatra, etc. at the beginning of the reception, some classic rock/jazz/country in the middle and save the hip/hop booty-shaking music for the end of the night.  It solves all your problems...I would hope that your 80-year old gramma has turned in by then, your sister has enough sense to take her 5-year old home for bed and anyone who's left and willing to party can do so without making anyone else feel uncomfortable.  I just don't understand why everyone is making such a big deal out of this.  If your older, conservative relatives are still handing around after 10:00pm watching all the young people grinding on each other, perhaps they're not as innocent as you might think!  However, as said before, it's your day and do what you want but if you're going to spend your big night controlling what everone else does it's not going to be a good for you or anyone else.  At least give your guests a forewarning that it will be a clean-cut reception so that the ones who want to really celebrate won't come and then be disappointed with the limited fun allowed. I know that I would be really let-down if I traveled to a friend/relative's wedding only to find out that it was a dry, dance-free zone.  I would probably leave and go check out the down-town scene.
Posted by dayzed_9[/QUOTE]

Hadn't thought of the whole playing the standards until later in the evening. I'm not trying to control how my guests dance, or how they choose to have a good time. I just don't like seeing the dry humping at weddings that I go to. It's usually a family event right? BUT, I will probably be having such a good time myself, I won't even notice anyone else dancing. Thanks ladies for all the suggestions, comments, etc. , and the reminders that it just won't matter how everyone else is dancing.
I think I was just in a state of worrying.... LOL.