Mother-in-law and bridal showers

catcuz9

I really need help on this issue.  Must the mother-in-law be invited to all the wedding showers?  I am not a hudge fan of my mother-in-law, but my mom keeps telling me I have to invite her to all the showers.  Why can't she be invited to the family shower only?  Please advise!

Lizzy&Nick

If I was having multiple wedding showers with any family in attendance, I would invite my Mother in Law.

banana468

The moms and BMs are invited to all showers as a courtesy.

babblingbrookey

I am having 2 bridal showers as the families don't live close to each other. My mother and sisters are invited to his families shower and my FMIL is invited to the one with my family. It is nice to have a day where the moms really get to know the other side of the family. I get along with my FMIL really well so it's fine with me, but I think even if you aren't a huge fan of your FMIL you should probably still invite her. Who knows, maybe it will make your relationsihp a bit better

MairePoppy

Yes. The MOB and MOG should be invited to all showers.

mandi921vh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_mother-law-bridal-showers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:2afa8643-7dcb-4dfd-8bb2-3d627c8d698fPost:46eee8ab-7232-4af2-99f8-451414c59324">Re: Mother-in-law and bridal showers</a>:
[QUOTE]The moms and BMs are invited to all showers as a courtesy.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

<div>This. </div>

1lovemybabe

I also have a situation with my mother in law and my bridal shower. I would prefer to have two showers so it is easier to plan for both sides. I want something very low key. My mother in law has over 50 people she plans to invite (most people I do not know) and with my family and friends it will be at 80 people!!! that seems way too big for one shower. So now she is talking about having to rent a place and do all this decorating for it. My family cannot afford to feed 80 people nor do they want to rent a place. When I told my mother in law that I would rather do 2 she freaked out and now thinks that I have a problem with her family. What would you do?

MobKaz

I think a modifier needs to be addressed here, and perhaps that will help in the decision making process.

Catcuz asks if her FMIL needs to be invited to ALL wedding showers.  Catcuz also asks whether invitations to family related showers is sufficient.

In the case of family attended showers, I would agree that both the MOB and MOG should be invited.  However, if the bride attends a shower hosted by co-workers or other NON family guests,(perhaps sorority sisters, college friends) than I would say an invitation does not necessarily have to be extended. 

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"In the case of family attended showers, I would agree that both the MOB and MOG should be invited.  However, if the bride attends a shower hosted by co-workers or other NON family guests,(perhaps sorority sisters, college friends) than I would say an invitation does not necessarily have to be extended. "

This... but if you're inviting your mom to a non-family shower FMIL should also be invited.