So my MOH kinda took the back burner to my bridal shower and some of my bridesmaids had to step up.. Which is fine this is the short version and now my bridal shower is next Saturday and half the people haven't responded yet... The invites were sent a little over a week ago, and some important people can't come because it was so last minute. I kinda feel like its going to be me in an empty room and I'm really angry about everything that has happened. I almost feel like we should just cancel the event because I'm scared the restaurant might tell us there aren't enough people to open for us. I don't know who to react to how at this point and I'm losing it a little. Just for a quick synopsis, there was no last name on my shower invite, and the responses are supposed o go to my MOH via phone, but she is leaving on vacation tomorrow for 4 days, so unless she calls me international I won't know who to call to get RSVPs from : and to make it better there has been little to no communication going on w my BP. Like my mom bought favors and I had dinner w my MOH tonight an she had no idea she was going w one of my BM next week to get them... Should I just cancel it and forget it? Or should I express my discontent w my MOH? Or just let it go and hope it works out?
Re: Bridal shower worries....
What's going on with the bms that orgnaized the party? They should call all the guests that haven't answered, since they won't be able to RSVP to the number that was listed on the invitation. If your mom feels comfortable, she can help with the phone calls. Some of those invitees might be wondering Danielle WHO? since your last name wasn't on the invitation. When they have a headcount, they should call their contact at the restaurant and make sure that the restaurant will be able to work with your numbers.
Your MOH wasn't obligated to throw a shower for you, so I hope no one pressured her into it. But if she volunteered and gave everyone the impression that she had it under control, until the last minute, shame on her. But you still shouldn't say anything to her.
I hope everything works out for you. Good luck.
My MOH, was super excited and we started to plan I gave her the addresses and dates about 2 months ago. Then a month ago (after doing nothing) she had a problem with me expecting her to pay for it.... I told her, that no one expected that and that my mother was paying for it and had she CALLED my mom as I asked her to a MONTH before she would have known that, but I don't think I should have to plan my own. She agreed being relieved that she didn't have to pay. Now a week away, I am pissed, my BMs are pissed, and I feel like a forgotten bride. Some of my BMs stood up and got part of the job done, but the damage has been done with some of the guests, that are family, that can't be undone, because they are pissed that they can't come up because of the short notice and are arguing and mad at me.
And I know its in poor taste to say something about it but seriously, don't agree to something you don't want to do. If she had said something 2 months ago, then I would have said don't worry about it. But she was always happy to do it, but didn't actually do anything and I wasn't informed of that until one of my BM called me and said she sent 1 email and never responded to anything else about the Bridal Shower.
If you cancel the shower, will your mom get any deposits back? Could it be rescheduled for a day that's convenient for your VIPs. My main concern with cancelling is that some of those guest that have accepted the invitation and bought gifts may get the impression that their attendance at your shower doesn't mean as much to you as the guests who couldn't make it. Does that make sense to you?
Truly, I hope things turn out better than you are expecting, right now.
Don't stress over it. Your shower should be fun and the least of your worries. It's just taking a little while for it to get off the ground. Like PPs said, don't cancel it. If space is an issue, maybe the venue will make adjustments for the smaller size.
I always jump through hoops for my friends, it just kills me that my wedding / shower were treated w such disrespect when any of the BM would have done it months ago if my MOH hadn't been so insistent. And now they are all mad too because of it.
[QUOTE]"Your MOH wasn't obligated to throw a shower for you, so I hope no one pressured her into it. But if she volunteered and gave everyone the impression that she had it under control, until the last minute, shame on her. But you still shouldn't say anything to her." My MOH, was super excited and we started to plan I gave her the addresses and dates about 2 months ago. Then a month ago (after doing nothing) she had a problem with me expecting her to pay for it.... I told her, that no one expected that and that my mother was paying for it and had she CALLED my mom as I asked her to a MONTH before she would have known that, but I don't think I should have to plan my own.<strong> She agreed being relieved that she didn't have to pay. Now a week away, I am pissed, my BMs are pissed, and I feel like a forgotten bride. </strong>Some of my BMs stood up and got part of the job done, but the damage has been done with some of the guests, that are family, that can't be undone, because they are pissed that they can't come up because of the short notice and are arguing and mad at me. And I know its in poor taste to say something about it but seriously, don't agree to something you don't want to do. If she had said something 2 months ago, then I would have said don't worry about it. But she was always happy to do it, but didn't actually do anything and I wasn't informed of that until one of my BM called me and said she sent 1 email and never responded to anything else about the Bridal Shower.
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What happened between a month ago when she found out that your mother is paying for the shower, and now?