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Need To Cut One of My Parties?

charbakescharbakes
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My mother and my future in-laws are both stupidly traditional, and are having a hard time with the non-traditional direction of the wedding. His family is complaining about the reception being vegetarian and the ceremony being atheist, and my mother is grappling with the idea that I'm not having a customary French wedding.

I'm currently having a shower, a rehearsal dinner, and a bachelorette party. I'm currently fighting with my mother over the fact that I vehemently don't want a chivaree, and I can't neglect my business to keep going to so many parties.

My bachelorette party isn't going, but something has to.
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  • FayeValentine69FayeValentine69
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    edited December 2011
    What is a chivaree? 

    The rehearsal dinner isn't really a party for you.  It's a thank you to the people who take the time to attend the rehearsal, so it isn't really in the same category as a shower or a bach party.  And I don't think there's anything wrong with having both of the other two (different reasons for having them, and generally different guest lists), but if you're feeling overwhelmed you absolutely have the right to decline any party that is offered to you.
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  • charbakescharbakes
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    edited December 2011
    A chivaree is when some friends or family gather outside the couple's house and bang on pots and pans to interrupt them during their first wedded night, then the couple invites them in for drinks. My mother is in love with this tradition. We are staying in a hotel the night of, so that killed her hopes of surprising me with one. Hopefully.
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  • FayeValentine69FayeValentine69
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, like in "Oklahoma".  Yeah, that sounds awful. 
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    Is your wedding date 3/14/2015? If so, you are really getting ahead of yourself. How would you know that someone is planning to throw a bachelorette and shower this far ahead of time?
                       
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  • rknox88rknox88
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_need-cut-one-of-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:5c8e8e90-6aa8-4e72-bf7a-b3efe7ef5d3dPost:907bc317-d295-4f14-90b2-828e1f3f8e1b">Re: Need To Cut One of My Parties?</a>:
    [QUOTE]A chivaree is when some friends or family gather outside the couple's house and bang on pots and pans to interrupt them during their first wedded night, then the couple invites them in for drinks. My mother is in love with this tradition. We are staying in a hotel the night of, so that killed her hopes of surprising me with one. Hopefully.
    Posted by charbakes[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, I would definitely decline that. It sounds terrible. First night as a married couple or not.

    Just tell your mom you would appreciate it if she would respect your decision to not have a chivaree.
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