Help:: tough decision

JacksonToBe

Hey gals! So, we got engaged last July, and have been planning and paying deposits for a while now. We decided on a September wedding.  Recently we found out that my grandfather, who I am very close to, has cancer. the doctors only gave him 6-9 months. =(

My summer is sooo busy. I am graduating law school in May, and taking the bar in July. My bar classes start in early May. This is the reason for the September wedding. 

I really don't want to change the date. and originally my fiance and I had decided not - its our dream destination wedding on the beach. Also we have put down a lot of money already. It breaks my heart to think that my grandfather might not be there. And if my grandfather asks me to move the wedding so he can be there, I have to. 

My sister suggested a "mock" wedding - on a much smaller scale at home just for my grandfather. I need some advice. What do you all think? A pre "mock" wedding? or the real thing and just do a vow renewal in September? Or a completely new idea/ thought?

Thanks so much! 

mandi921vh

Only you can make this decision. 

heatherreineke

My best friend had to move her wedding up because her FI's mom had cancer and was actually in the hospital. So they moved the wedding up and had a family ceremony in her hospital room, she wore her dress but he just wore nice pants and a shirt. They were acutally married. Then, because they had already made the plans she had her wedding again, however they were already married so I think the vows and stuff was changed.  It was still a beautiful ceremony and everything and everyone knew the cercumstances.  I'm not sure when his mom actually died but I think it was before they had the church ceremony so they were both glad they were able to include his mom in everything.