I got engaged last month and my FI and I will have officially set our date/location tomorrow (provided all goes as planned). We had thought about hosting an engagement party at one of our favorite restaurants to "officially" ask our in-town friends/family (about half are out of town) to be part of our wedding. In no means is this meant to get gifts, I honestly would not expect it. And, we would only invite the people and their significant others who will become part of the wedding. We'd pay the bill as a first gift for them to be our bridesmaids/groomsmen. I came to this board to get some ideas, and now I'm reading that it is bad etiquette to throw yourself an engagement party. Is this bad etiquette? Could we call it something different to make it more acceptable? Thoughts are appreciated. This bridal stuff is tough!