I have had my wedding date planned for 6 months and I have my bridesmaids picked for 4 months. My problem is that my wedding is in 58 days and not a single one of my 4 bridesmaids have talked about a shower! I have been so wrapped up in the wedding planning I didn't realize it until my mom, lives out of town, asked if she was invited to a shower. I told her I had not planned one and she said it is my bridesmaids responsibility. How do I ask them with out being a mean bride?