I am getting married in NJ in March. I come from a very large family. Most of my family is in New England. Nearly all of my cousins are married with young children. We are trying to keep our numbers down because I am a full time student, so we opted not to invite them to the wedding. Truthfully, I think that it would be difficult and expensive for them to travel during that time of the year. We are holding a second reception next summer back in New England. It will be much more casual than the initial reception, but I want the opportunity to celebrate with my family.
My question is: Is it okay to invite my cousins to the bridal shower when they will not be invited to the actual wedding, but rather just the second reception?