major bachelorette party help needed

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my sister is getting married and i am the maid of honor. she is a true party girl at heart and wants a limo and to basically be wasted. none of the bridesmaids, including myself drink. there is only one other girl, besides my sister who drinks. 2 of the bridesmaids will have just given birth and will be nursing so they absolutely cannot drink. i need major help with ideas for the bachelorette party. it is going to be in the summer on a weekend. the girls dont want to do a spa trip because they think it is too expensive and dont want to go bar hopping which is what the bride wants to do. what can i do so that everyone is somewhat happy!?!? helppp!

mikeynkrib2011

it sounds like none of the BM's drink and/or party, but what about your sisters friends who will be attending the bach party?  if she's a true party girl, she's gotta have peeps she goes out with and i'm assuming they'll prob be there for the bachelorette party...... 

i would suggest something like this:  meet at someones house and provide light apps/wine (so people can choose to drink or not), go to a late dinner, and then go out for a night on the town.

this way, the non-partiers can still participate but just leave early if they decide.

 i've heard of people doing fun classes, like strip tease, fortune telling parties, and mini-spa stuff for around $25 per person in the Michigan area, so this can also be incorporated in somewhere too (ie in lieu of dinner, or the apps and wine part).

basically, just find a happy medium.  yes, the bride doesn't get to plan her own party, but it's awfully considerate to take her opinion into consideration.  

vwhitney2107

Just a thought....I know there are a few places that do something like a combined pedicure and martini. I don't think it cost very much at all but it would be something all the girls could do together and then the ones that choose to drink would have that option. It's not exaclty like going to a club or anything like that but it could be fun! Maybe you could start off the evening with something like that?

garcias1

You don't have to do a whole spa day necessarily.  What about going to get pedicures and then doing dinner (with some drinks for the girls who want to) and then the bride and her party friends can go bar hopping.  You are under no obligation to do anything you don't want to do, so it's not a big deal if you only participate for part of the party.  That way she gets what she wants, and even the non-drinkers can celebrate with her.

stephasuasu

I am pretty sure that people that are nursing absolutely CAN drink! They just have to feed the baby pumped milk until the alcohol is out of the system. I agree with the first suggestion, have everyone over to a house or hotel suite for games, food, and socializing. Then, have a limo come pick everyone up. Those that want to duck out, can. This is what we did. Party started at the Presidential suite at a hotel at 7:00, where dinner was catered and drinks were served. Then, the stretch escalade came and picked up those going downtown at 10:00 pm. Those that didn't want to come left. worked out great!