Bridal Shower Size?

cswooley

How many people is too many?  My mother and FMIL live in the same city, and a lot of their friends overlap, so it would be a lot easier to include everyone at one shower.  But, with the addition of family members from both sides, there would be 40 people invited.  Granted, several are OOT, but even if none of them came, it could easily be 30 people.  All showers I've been to have been 15 people--maybe 20 max.  Is 40 unmanageable?  Or even just uncomfortable?

waltzingmatilda13

It depends on who is hosting and what they can afford. As the bride, you can provide a list of guests you would like to be there, but that doesn't mean all of them are going to invited. For that many people the hosts may need to hold it in a restaurant and that could add up. 

First, you should see who offers to throw a shower and then let them ask you for a list based on whatever they can afford or whoever they want in attendance. 

LoveMuffins

We're inviting about 35 people to mine. I just made sure it was ok with the hosts before i gave them the guest list.

cswooley

Love, where are you having yours?  At a hotel, or at the hosts house, or where?  I know I've seen pictures of people having really large showers (read: every woman on the guest list), but they were in church fellowship halls or places of that nature.  After you have your shower, come back and tell me what you thought about the size!  I just don't know if that many people will get to seeming impersonal and too large.

aornst

i had to invite 50 people to mine. my FMIL freaked ouit when she was "restricted" to inviting 15 of her friends/family.
my mother and my sister (my MOH) are throwing it for me because no one else could afford to accomodate 50 people. Luckily, some aren't able to attend so we're down to 42.
If it was really up to me, I'd say a good size is 30 - the number of people I actually want and like! I mean it really depends on how many people you are really close with. I think that's what matters.

Allycat11

First as PPs mentioned, wait to see who offers to host a shower and see what their budget is.  I do not think 40 is too many, but I come from a family where showers are hosted at restaurants and hotels and the guest lists can reach 80 or so (my showers will be smaller). 

janicejab

  I'm having 2 showers thrown for me. One will have about 22-25 people. The other is a coed BBQ/ shower that I have no idea how many people are invited to (it's being thrown by FSIL and is for FI's side of the family). I guesstimate that about 75 people are invited, but quite a few of those people are OOT and aren't likely to come.