SA Wednesday

professorscience

I hope the lady who almost rear-ended me for slowing down in a school zone (and then tried to pass, only to realize EVERYONE had slowed down) got wherever she was going in such a damn hurry.

cwaggoner07

I started this thread a half hour ago but I think the Knot ate it.
And what I said was very important:

I hope that happy couple that got engaged in the park last night always remembers the girl that was staring at them holding a bag of dog poop in her hand.

professorscience

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[QUOTE]I started this thread a half hour ago but I think the Knot ate it. :( And what I said was very important: I hope that happy couple that got engaged in the park last night always remembers the girl that was staring at them holding a bag of dog poop in her hand.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

Awesome.  Reminds me of all the awkward proposals I used to see at Baylor.  I swear, one Valentine's Day there was a line of couples waiting to sit in one of the garden circles in front of Pat Neff.

cwaggoner07

Bahaha. Sounds like the Century Tree at A&M. Like, no one ever walks that way unless they are wearing sweat pants heading to class.

I guess it was sweet, just the reality of my day-to-day dog duties combined with that memory for a couple was just too too funny.

professorscience

Hey, I found your thread!

And a new one:
I just sent a message to a facebook friend explaining that her homeopathic "cure" for some ailment could actually turn her skin blue.

kristan1022

This overcast weather makes it so dang hard to get up in the morning!

Yesterday after work I went to Charming Charlie in Plano and got $200 worth of stretchy rings to use in my bouquet for around $60. YAY for buy 1 get 2 free clearance!

cwaggoner07

You're turning violet, Violet!

aeliza06

My dogs are with FILs this week since I leave on Friday. I miss not having them here. Le sigh. 

In Abilene, people would propose all the time on Valentine's day at Olive Garden.  I did anything I could to keep from laughing. Nothing says "marry me" like some unlimited breadsticks and fettuccini alfredo. 

kristan1022

Yeah, my first post might have gotten eaten by TK and I don't know if it's going to come back.

But in other news, I am being EXTREMELY judgemental towards other people's spelling and grammar today. I was lurking the Just Engaged Board (because duh, V-day proposals) and I found myself mocking these people in my head that cannot proofread what they type. 

I think I need it to be the weekend

cwaggoner07

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[QUOTE]My dogs are with FILs this week since I leave on Friday. I miss not having them here. Le sigh.  In <strong>Abilene</strong>, people would propose all the time on Valentine's day at Olive Garden.  I did anything I could to keep from laughing. Nothing says "marry me" like some unlimited breadsticks and fettuccini alfredo. 
Posted by aeliza06[/QUOTE]

Did you go to school there? My brother's wife went to Hardin Simmons for her Bachelors and Masters, and that's where they got married! Also, no lie, my brother's favorite restaurant is OG. We catered from them for RD.

ktwed1

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[QUOTE]This overcast weather makes it so dang hard to get up in the morning! Yesterday after work I went to Charming Charlie in Plano and got $200 worth of stretchy rings to use in my bouquet for around $60. YAY for buy 1 get 2 free clearance!
Posted by kristan1022[/QUOTE]
Charming Charlie is one of my favorite places. I was in there last Friday, wasted half my day there.

aeliza06

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday :<strong> Did you go to school there?</strong> My brother's wife went to Hardin Simmons for her Bachelors and Masters, and that's where they got married! Also, no lie, my brother's favorite restaurant is OG. We catered from them for RD.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]
Unfortunately, I wish I was that cool. I just grew up there. The Hardin Simmons Chapel is really beautiful though, I am sure it was a wonderful wedding! <div>I don't have issues with the OG, it was where I worked in high school. In Abilene it is considered a "high-end" restaurant (read: not ihop or Golden Corral), so I can understand why it is popular (the food is yummy). I just couldn't imagine FI proposing to me over a 9$ pasta dish three feet away from a table of high schoolers while Frank Sinatra is seranading over 20 year old speakers. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /> </div>

cwaggoner07

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : Unfortunately, I wish I was that cool. I just grew up there. The Hardin Simmons Chapel is really beautiful though, I am sure it was a wonderful wedding!  I don't have issues with the OG, it was where I worked in high school<strong>. In Abilene it is considered a "high-end" restaurant</strong> (read: not ihop or Golden Corral), so I can understand why it is popular (the food is yummy). I just couldn't imagine FI proposing to me over a 9$ pasta dish three feet away from a table of high schoolers while Frank Sinatra is seranading over 20 year old speakers.   
Posted by aeliza06[/QUOTE]

I totally understand. I waited tables at Cheddar's in College Station for 3 years. One time I waited on a 16 year old girl who proposed to her boyfriend, with parents in tow, by placing a ring on a cheese stick.
You cannot make this stuff up people.

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]You're turning violet, Violet!
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

"I've got a blueberry for a daughter." 

cwaggoner07

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : "I've got a blueberry for a daughter." 
Posted by juliebug1997[/QUOTE]

Fun Fact: My bridesmaids are walking down the aisle to Pure Imagination acoustic-style.

FebDallasBride

So I just have to get this off my chest. Julie knows and I think Brianna knows, but that's it. Julie unfortuantely had to witness the breakdown of all breakdowns the morning of my wedding, due to the husband of one of Ed's fellow soldiers being a complete douche to my BIL after they got Ed completely smashed Friday night.

First of all, let me apologize for the lengthy post.

Long story short - When Ed drinks he can get very mean. Not violent mean, but just runs his mouth and talks a good game. That being said, he does know his stopping point, and stops before he gets to that. Add in the PTSD from being in combat twice and it can be really rough on him. Luckily for me, he has recognized this and is working with the Veterans Affairs free services to work through that.

The rest of the story....

Friday, all of his combat buddies were buying him shot after shot when we were out at karaoke. One in particular (known from here on out as AHole, who is merely the husband of a combat buddy) did not understand why I told him to stop at about 9:30 that night, and kept going behind my back to feed him shots made of different hard liquors. Two of Ed's cousins and his brother had to turn into babysitters for the evening once we got back to the hotel. Well instead of going back and passing out, AHole decides he is going to feed my husband MORE whisky.

Ed at one point left the GM suite to just come to bed with me in the second BM room which was right next door to them. Instead, they took him back into his room and he, not being of sound mind, got upset with me and said some very hurtful things before he flat out passed out. Cue BIL jumping in to defend me and AHole gets all up in arms saying that Ed has every right to act that way because he has been to combat and BIL just doesn't understand. BIL leaves in tears and stays up half the night with us trying to calm each other down.

FFwd to wedding day, after I haven't slept and BIL is attempting to rest for just a little bit. I spent a while in the GM suite with just me and Ed alone and I had to tell him all the awful things he said to his brother (lucky for me everything he said to me was in text.) It took a good ten minutes of me raising my voice for him to finally realize that every bit of drama was linked back to one person - AHole. I also had to bring up that this is the same person who brought drama into my housewarming party and made one of my BMs cry. As far as I am concerned this person hit strike 1 and 2 between housewarming night and pre-wedding festivities and I am not willing to get to strike 3. I hate being that person who says who you can and can't associate with, but this person is completely detrimental to relationships.

I think I have gone through a lot of the emotions, including embarrassment about the situation, because what I saw Friday night was not the man I know and love.
Ed has decided that he needs to seek more professional help for everything, because he really thought he was going to lose me Saturday morning just hours before the wedding. I am in turn looking for some sort of support group for spouses of those who have been to combat and may be going through PTSD. Ultimately we both want to feel like we can have control over therse situations from here on out. I also told him that AHole is no longer welcome in my house, which breaks my heart having to do that because he has the sweetest wife in the world.

I didn't mean to go on a rant about this, but you girls have been such a sounding board and superb support system for me that I wanted to fill you in on what will be going on in my life in the coming months. And if I ever come in here and seem extra cranky or disappear for a while, more than likely it's because we are working together to overcome issues that I neever ever thought we'd have to face. I do have to say that I am lucky that I have someone who recognizes that he can't hide from his past and needs to face things head on to move past it so that we can live a long happy life together.

PS I love you girls.

aeliza06

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[QUOTE]PS I love you girls.
Posted by FebDallasBride[/QUOTE]<div>PS We love you. I am so glad that you have such a caring husband who can realize such things and want to be the best that he can be. I wish you both the best as you embark on this. You seem like such a strong person, and while I don't know DH, it seems like your strength is exactly what he needs. 

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AshJohnson30

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : PS We love you. I am so glad that you have such a caring husband who can realize such things and want to be the best that he can be. I wish you both the best as you embark on this. You seem like such a strong person, and while I don't know DH, it seems like your strength is exactly what he needs. 
Posted by aeliza06[/QUOTE]

<strong><u>ALL</u></strong> of this! I may not be an OMH yet but I do know marriage is difficult. the fact that he sees his flaws and wants to work on them is a great first step. I'm sad you had to go through this on your most special day. I will definitely keep you both in my prayers

cwaggoner07

Wendi I admire you SO much for coming forward with this and not being ashamed, because we've all faced tough times in relationships. I heard somewhere that once girls get married they feel like they have to have this perfect facade of never fighting and happily ever after, which is impossible!
Ultimately, marriage is about two people with flaws learning to navigate through them and it sounds like y'all are definitely on the right track, and I think it speaks volumes to how serious y'all are about your marriage and how much you love each other.

professorscience

Wendi, I can't add anything except that I love you, too.

crash2729

I love you Wendi! That's all I have to say.

winechic25

First of all Wendi, my heart goes out to you and Ed. Being able to get through this will only make you guys that much stronger. Please let us know when/if you ever need anything! I love you too, and admire you more than you know! On another note, Amanda, I'm Italian and everyone asks me, "How do you not like the Olive Garden"? Seriously. NOT. REAL. ITALIAN!!

FebDallasBride

Thanks girls. Saturday was definitely emotional for me and that was a huge part of it. I can say, and my BMs can attest to this, that I had calmed down by hair an makeup time and felt confident that we could enter marriage together and work through it together.

The troublemaker through the whole thing never apologized, but avoided me come wedding time (I couldn't uninvite him without uninviting his wife and I wasn't about to do that to her.)

fallbride1109

Oh wow, Wendi, I agree with everyone else here--Ed realizing the problem and sincerely wanting to make a change says everything.  And don't you feel a bit guilty about asking him to separate himself from an unhealthy relationship.  I am sure he will see it is for the best if he hasn't already.

I am glad you were both able to put this all aside and have such a great wedding day.  Good luck and you know we are all here for you.

FebDallasBride

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[QUOTE]On another note, Amanda, I'm Italian and everyone asks me, "How do you not like the Olive Garden"? Seriously. NOT. REAL. ITALIAN!!
Posted by winechic25[/QUOTE]

LOL Ed's Italian too and we love OG on our bum nights. You know what we REALLY like? Carrabba's!

Oh and the UPS site is being a bastard and I need to track my thank your cookie bouquets I sent to Melody and my girl at the Magnolia <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

kristan1022

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SA Wednesday : LOL Ed's Italian too and we love OG on our bum nights. You know what we REALLY like? Carrabba's! <strong>Oh and the UPS site is being a bastard and I need to track my thank your cookie bouquets I sent to Melody and my girl at the Magnolia</strong>
Posted by FebDallasBride[/QUOTE]

<div>1) I love you and you know we will all be here for you no matter what.</div><div>
</div><div>2) In regards to the bolded part, the UPS site being down today is SO INCONVENIENT because we're currently in the middle of 2 customer disputes that involve whether or not their shipments were actually delivered, and we can't verify anything since the site is down. Just one of many reasons we switched the majority of our shipments to FedEx starting back in December.</div>

courtski2004

Oh Wendi, my heart breaks for you after reading your story. You're right, there are great couples support groups out there for PTSD. With so many military personnel out there that stuggle to face the after-effects of deployments, I am so glad that Ed is able to recognize the issue and take the first steps in seeking the help that is out there. I would hardly consider what I experienced overseas as 'time in combat', but I have a lot of friends/colleagues whose lives and relationships were devastated as a result of non-treatment and I really respect both of you for taking these steps. If you ever need ANYTHING, please don't hesitate We love you back!