Truly Random Problem
Let me just begin by saying my fiance (and I) are extremely weird nerdy people, and his silliness is one of my favorite things about him.
When we (ok, when I) was registering, I told him he could put one "ridiculous" thing on the registry, meaning something we don't really need, but could be fun, thinking he'd choose something like a Soda Stream.
He chose an adult size Big Wheel. That costs nearly $700. Now, this is pretty funny, true, but I have this crippling fear that someone will actually buy it for us (like his groomsmen or his college buddies would all pool together). We have absolutely no actual use for it, and the opportunity cost (think how much of the real registry we could get for that!) is just so great that I worry.
He says no one will ever buy it and it's his way of being represented on the registry. It is true that I picked nearly all of it, but he did come along to the stores for final decisions and gave his input (which I took).
Does anyone think I have any reason to worry? Or is this just a little laugh we can give our guests while they shop?
I really do think this is hilarious...I just really really don't want to end up with a $700 Big Wheel we can't return.
Re: Truly Random Problem
It should also be noted that this is via our Amazon registry where you can comment on the items. I wrote something like "You found our joke registry item! We don't really want it, but hope it gave you a chuckle."
Does that help the situation?
[QUOTE]It should also be noted that this is via our Amazon registry where you can comment on the items. I wrote something like "You found our joke registry item! We don't really want it, but hope it gave you a chuckle." Does that help the situation?
Posted by LaineEtc[/QUOTE]
<div>Maybe a little, but I would find it a bit off-putting. I'm going to try to explain why, and hopefulyl this makes sense: </div><div>
</div><div>When FI and I attend a wedding, we usually spend about $100 on a wedding gift. That's serious money for us, and we hope that the gift we give the couple is something they want, remember us by, and genuinely enjoy. </div><div>
</div><div>Our wedding guests seem to feel similarly. FI and I have received some truly beautiful things that we will likely keep forever - serving pieces of our china, pieces from our silver pattern, very nice platters, handmade salad bowls, etc. These are things that we will remember our guests by. Your guests may have a different persepctive, but mine seem to think that wedding gifts should be something that the couple wants, needs, and takes seriously.</div><div>
</div><div>I guess what I'm trying to say is that many guests take wedding gifts seriously - I am finding that they put a lot of thought into their choice, and many people are incredibly generous. This certainly varies by circle - many circles give predominantly cash gifts - but my group really thinks about it. I have received 3 or 4 beatriz ball serving pieces that coordinate with our china, and the ladies actually told me they went to the store and held them side by side to make sure it was something that would look nice with our china pattern. I guess when I see a bride and groom joking about gifts they have registered for, I'd find it a little off-putting because I take wedding gifts pretty seriously when I give them. Does that make any sense at all?</div>
[QUOTE]Let me just begin by saying my fiance (and I) are extremely weird nerdy people, and his silliness is one of my favorite things about him. When we (ok, when I) was registering, I told him he could put one "ridiculous" thing on the registry, meaning something we don't really need, but could be fun, thinking he'd choose something like a Soda Stream. He chose an adult size Big Wheel. That costs nearly $700. Now, this is pretty funny, true, but I have this crippling fear that someone will actually buy it for us (like his groomsmen or his college buddies would all pool together). We have absolutely no actual use for it, and the opportunity cost (think how much of the real registry we could get for that!) is just so great that I worry. He says no one will ever buy it and it's his way of being represented on the registry. It is true that I picked nearly all of it, but he did come along to the stores for final decisions and gave his input (which I took). Does anyone think I have any reason to worry? Or is this just a little laugh we can give our guests while they shop? I really do think this is hilarious...I just really really don't want to end up with a $700 Big Wheel we can't return.
Posted by LaineEtc[/QUOTE]
<div>Maybe you could find some "man-cave" kind of thing for him to put on the registry that he would actually like, but is closer to $40-60?</div><div>
</div><div>One of my friends' FI's registered for fancy beer mugs with his college mascot on them.</div>
But what DOES bother me is that it's something you don't even want or will use. If it was an expensive stand mixer or vacuum that you truly want, I think one item that costs that much is fine and I wouldn't side eye it. But if it's just a joke and you wouldn't use it, I don't see the point of it being on there. I would try to have your FI represented elsewhere on the registry and have those items be things you guys actually want and will use.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
[QUOTE]Besides, anything that cost $700 should not be on the registry, as it is way too expensive.
Posted by Sierra524[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I disagree. While $700 IS expensive, saying it is too expensive of an item to belong on a registry is a generalization.
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