What do I register for?

alannascott80

Having seen many duly chastised on here for the idea of a honeymoon registry, I have decided to forego that for our wedding, but I am at a loss of what to register for. My fiance' and I both had homes to begin with which we have already merged together, and we don't need a thing...let alone cabinet space to put anything in. Should I forego a registry entirely?

Kokes28

Seriously, do not neglect the idea of a HR just because what you see on here. We are doing a HR and our friends and family are fully supportive of the idea! We have a cruise booked and have registered via royal carribbean for items like photo packages, drink packages, massages, etc. If you already have your HM booked see if there's something like that available that way you aren't directly asking for money, which seems to be what eveyrone around here gets their panties in a bunch for. But honestly, I see nothing wrong with the HR... times are changing.

jagore08

DH and I lived together for over 7 years before marrying.  I had a notepad that I wrote things down on while cleaning and cooking.  I wrote down things to upgrade (guests towels, sheets, new picture frames) and things that could make life easier (small whisk, hand grater, stand/emersion mixer, hand vac).  Do this for one month and you'll be surprised what you come up with. 

If you don't come up with much then it's ok to tell your guests you're saving for ______ when they ask what you really want.  Guests know how to write a check if they want to give cash.

Kokes28

Just looked over our registries FAQ, nobody will be cutting us a check. Bummer I really wanted to rub salt in the wounds of my guest and not get the wonderful additions to our HM that they may give us.

jagore08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_register-55?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:715166fb-bbde-42ca-9c8e-e228cc40b81ePost:fd3c1dc5-b022-4749-b3ac-2ef6315a31b5">Re: What do I register for?</a>:
[QUOTE]Just looked over our registries FAQ, nobody will be cutting us a check. Bummer I really wanted to rub salt in the wounds of my guest and not get the wonderful additions to our HM that they may give us.
Posted by Kokes28[/QUOTE]
I remember your post about your HM registry and pp might not have been involved in that thread.  Your registry is different than most, probably because it's through the cruise company.  The majority of 3rd party HM registries charge a fee that your guests may be unaware of and then just give the B&G the rest of the money (i.e. Guest gives $100, HM registry takes 10%, B&G only receive $90 of the gift).  The B&G don't get the actual gift (show tickets, activity packages) that they say they're registring for, only a portion of the money the guest gives.  That's why a lot of people don't like the idea of HM registries.  It usually better for the guest to just write the check to the B&G directly.

mandi921vh

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_register-55?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:715166fb-bbde-42ca-9c8e-e228cc40b81ePost:d30a7249-d9c1-42b3-9c19-a0dd613e0a08">Re: What do I register for?</a>:
[QUOTE]DH and I lived together for over 7 years before marrying.  I had a notepad that I wrote things down on while cleaning and cooking.  I wrote down things to upgrade (guests towels, sheets, new picture frames) and things that could make life easier (small whisk, hand grater, stand/emersion mixer, hand vac).  Do this for one month and you'll be surprised what you come up with.  If you don't come up with much then it's ok to tell your guests you're saving for ______ when they ask what you really want.  Guests know how to write a check if they want to give cash.
Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]

<div>This exactly.</div>

Fritchsp

A friend had lived with her fiance for a few years before getting married and she used these poems.  She has passed them onto me and my fiance and I are using them as well.  We do not need anything for the house so we are not doing a traditional registry. We included the 1st poem on out wedding website and will include it in our invitations and the 2nd poem goes on a table next to a tree with bare branches and little green envelopes to "make the branches bloom"

Poem for Invite

We hope that you will join us

on this our special day

To celebrate our union

in a very special way

To make it easy for you

and avoid a shopping spree

We thought that we would have instead

a little money tree

Because we've been together,

for a little while now

We have collected all our household things

before we took our vows

An envelope will be provided

for you to bless our tree

no name is required for each gift

as anonymity is the key!

So please don't be offended

at our new type of request

Just telling everyone our wish

has really put us to the test!

Poem for Money Tree Table, place next to envelope's

I'm just a little money tree

With lots of branches bare as can be!

But you can make my branches bloom

with good things for the bride and groom!

Please take your gift and give me leaves

To make my branches full and green!

For the newlyweds Ill be a blessing

Ill give them all their nest is missing!