Hi all,
So, a few people have asked me questions like "What do you want me to get you for the wedding?" My usual response is to tell them where we are registered and suggest a few specific gifts that I think might be appropriate to that person. The surprising reply is, "Yeah, I looked at your registry and I don't want to give you any of that stuff, what else do you want?"
This really frustrates me because a) we live in a beautiful, but small place and don't have room for things we really won't use and b) we put a lot of work into the registry so that people would know what we wanted.
So far, I've tried politely explaining the above points, but that is often taken as an insult.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this?
Re: Difficult Question
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
[QUOTE]Any chance that they're "I don't like anything on your registry" is code for "I can't afford anything on your registry?"
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]
I agree with Edie and MrsB. Something seems off about this questioning you're receiving.
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
[QUOTE] I can understand the pressures of putting together a good registry, however peope don't ask you this an insult. They feel like they want to get you the best, and they don't want to end up buying you something off-registry in case a) you don't like it or b) someone gets you a duplicate of their gift, but at the same time they don't see anything that has their "personality" in the gift. They probably want to give you something that has their "personal stamp" on it. For instance, your bubbly friend from work doesn't want to get you a breadmaker, because when you look at her gift, she wants you to think of her. Do you have any hobbies? Do you and your FI like art? Maybe register for a couple of crazy items, that won't take up a lot of space. FI and I registered for a couple wall hangings, because it was suggested we get "eclectic" items for the hard-to-please-crowd. Because as much as they want to please you, they also want to be proud of what they give you.
Posted by LittleMissCutiePie[/QUOTE]
If this is the case, then the appropriate response would be "Well, then, anything you pick out will be great, I'm sure!" Because you can't really tell someone what THEY want to get you.
But I do agree that if you're getting this question a lot, I'd take a hard look at your price points.
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE]Any chance that they're "I don't like anything on your registry" is code for "I can't afford anything on your registry?"
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm thinking this too...</div>
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BUT - I never say anything to the B&G, I just buy something that they would like, even if it is white and I think it is boring :P
Other people do like to get more personalized items... so maybe that is it too.
I would say, "Our registry has stuff that we really would like/need, but I'm sure you can use it as inspiration to find something more creative." OR "Our registry has stuff that we really would like, but we don't need anything. We just hope you can come to the wedding!"