i am totally confused. so, registering at a bank or essentially asking for cash is tacky, but registering and sending everyone a list of exactly what you want is not? what we really need is money toward a down payment for a house. how do i ask that if my guests wish to give us a gift, they give us cash only? it is a destination wedding, so i don't expect everyone flying in to also shell out a monetary gift. but, hey, who doesn't like a little cash from the family?
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[QUOTE]i am totally confused. so, registering at a bank or essentially asking for cash is tacky, but registering <strong>and sending everyone a list of exactly what you want is not? </strong> what we really need is money toward a down payment for a house. how do i ask that if my guests wish to give us a gift, they give us cash only? it is a destination wedding, so i don't expect everyone flying in to also shell out a monetary gift. but, hey, who doesn't like a little cash from the family?
Posted by kerenzamarie[/QUOTE]
<div>No. You never send the registry or anything about the registry to anyone. </div><div>
</div><div>The registry is a guideline list <em>at the store</em> to help guests so that you don't end up with 8 different place settings of dishes and mismatched bedding. You never mention the registry (out loud or in writing) unless someone directly asks you about it. </div><div>
</div><div>Your guests are not morons. They know they can give you money. If they ask about a registry, it's because they want to get you a physical gift. </div>
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[QUOTE]i am totally confused. so, registering at a bank or essentially asking for cash is tacky, but registering and sending everyone a list of exactly what you want is not? what we really need is money toward a down payment for a house. how do i ask that if my guests wish to give us a gift, they give us cash only? it is a destination wedding, so i don't expect everyone flying in to also shell out a monetary gift. but, hey, who doesn't like a little cash from the family?
Posted by kerenzamarie[/QUOTE]
No, registering and sending your guests a list is also rude (not tacky, rude).