My fiancé and I live in Wisconsin but are getting married in my hometown in Florida. Right from the wedding we leave on a 10 cruise and then leave the ship and head directly to the airport to fly home. If guests bring gifts to the wedding we will not be able to get them home with us. My parents would need to ship them after the wedding but with the cost of shipping these days it does not seem worth it to ship a toaster. Any thoughts on how to tastefully say no box gifts? Or to say if you wish to purchase something off the registry to have it shipped direct to our house? We are only going to include this information on our wedding website but I still am not sure how to convey our message. We don’t really need anything for our home so my fiancé suggested just registering for large items so people won’t want to bring them with them anyways, such as lawn furniture, but I don’t think that is really the answer to our problem.
Re: "No Box" Gift Registry
[QUOTE]My fiancé and I live in Wisconsin but are getting married in my hometown in Florida. Right from the wedding we leave on a 10 cruise and then leave the ship and head directly to the airport to fly home. If guests bring gifts to the wedding we will not be able to get them home with us. My parents would need to ship them after the wedding but with the cost of shipping these days it does not seem worth it to ship a toaster. Any thoughts on how to tastefully say no box gifts? Or to say if you wish to purchase something off the registry to have it shipped direct to our house? We are only going to include this information on our wedding website but I still am not sure how to convey our message. We don’t really need anything for our home so my fiancé suggested just registering for large items so people won’t want to bring them with them anyways, such as lawn furniture, but I don’t think that is really the answer to our problem.
Posted by fritzm731[/QUOTE]
This question is asked daily on the knot. <div>
</div><div>It is rude to mention gifts at all to your guests. Make a registry of what you need. Most guests know to ship gifts to your home especially if they do online shipping. If they happen to bring anything to your ceremony then it's your responsibility to figure out how to get them to your home. Shipping isn't that expensive if you do ground. If your guests are going to be nice enough to get you a gift, you can find a way to accept if gracefully and get it to your home.</div><div>
</div><div>For the record, DH and I lived together for over 7 years before we were married so we had the necessities. We found things to upgrade and little things that could make our daily lives easier. We also live in California but were married in our hometown in Florida. Most of our guests gave us a monetary gift or had the gift shipped to our home. For the few that actually brought gifts to our home, we arranged with our parents to have the gifts sent to our home in Cali and reimbursed them for shipping. </div>
Make a super small registry. People will get the hint that you don't want gifts and most will give cash. Any gifts you do get, you can ship home with some of the money you recieve. That's the most tasteful way to go about this.
[QUOTE]I really have a problem with "Well, WE don't want to pay to ship stuff to our home, so YOU, GUEST, need to pay for it." I know you don't mean it that way, but that is how it comes across. Make a super small registry. People will get the hint that you don't want gifts and most will give cash. Any gifts you do get, you can ship home with some of the money you recieve. That's the most tasteful way to go about this.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
I couldn't agree more with the bolded statement. People may give you a boxed gift, so pay a few bucks to ship it. Shipping isn't that expensive and I doubt anyone will buy you a 10 pound gift
Just don't register for things like a refrigerator.
I agree, too. Not wanting to pay for shipping, so suggesting that the guests should pay for shipping sounds strange to me.
I would just make a small registry or none at all. Maybe registering for small or light things might help?
If you want to go through with it, maybe you could hint at the bottom of the registry by putting your address on it or something?
BBB's shipping costs are based on how much the item costs and not by weight, if I remember correctly.
I think Amazon has free shipping, if it's over a certain price. $25, I think. Target's is over $50 and Macy's uses has free shipping promotions.
Otherwise, UPS, the USPS and that other one, really do have decent shipping deals. So if all else fails, you can ship the items to your home. It'll cost you some money, but that's the choice you made by planning out your itinerary the way you did.