Wedding is done (August 25, 2012), thank yous for all gifts have been sent. Now I am thinking about sending thank yous to guests who came to the wedding but did not bring/send a gift. Some of them travelled from out of state for example and I want to thank them for that.
Is that something that people do?
Re: Thoughts on sending TY to guests for coming even though no gift rec'd?
Another idea...our photographer took lots of pictures of our guests. We were thinking of sending some 4x6 prints that we think guests will enjoy of themselves with a nice "thinking of you" note.
"Dear so and so:
Thank you so much for coming to our wedding. It was so much fun to see you again and catch up on everything that has been going on. DH and I cannot tell you how much we appreciated you being here and we hope that you got to spend a lot of time exploring Philadelphia. We love living here and couldn't wait to show off our new city to all of our friends and family.
I don't know when we will be in Ohio next but when we are, I will call you to get together.
Love,
GLB"
Ok, I guess I won't do it. I'll save it for holiday cards. Thanks for your imput!
We didn't receive a thank you card, and we were not slighted in the least. I didn't expect one at all.
There was a box on our doorstep when I got home from work yesterday - a gift from one of the couples that traveled! So now I can send them a Thank You!
[QUOTE]I did not send people a thank you card that didn't get us a gift, I didn't want to make them feel guilty or remind them.
Posted by ninamyspace[/QUOTE]
I guess I just dont see it that way, I see a TY note as not always being connected to a physical gift, but a TY for coming as in them coming was gift enough. Afterall-I didn't invite them just to get a gift I would have never considered that sending a TY note would make a guest feel bad either.
Is this a common sentiment here? or possibly regional?
I only ask because if its true across the board that sending the note would make the receiver feel bad I would never want to do that to someone I care about.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thoughts on sending TY to guests for coming even though no gift rec'd? : I guess I just dont see it that way, I see a TY note as not always being connected to a physical gift, but a TY for coming as in them coming was gift enough. Afterall-I didn't invite them just to get a gift I would have never considered that sending a TY note would make a guest feel bad either. Is this a common sentiment here? or possibly regional? I only ask because if its true across the board that sending the note would make the receiver feel bad I would never want to do that to someone I care about.
Posted by souptin[/QUOTE]
I've never seen anything wrong with it. I think in order for someone to see this as a passive aggressive move, this has to be the personality of the B or G to start out with. As I said, in my case, guests spent a boatload of money to come to our wedding. I honestly did not expect gifts from anyone because of how much they had already spent - which in itself required a thank you beyond the reception as far as DH and I were concerned.
eta - when DH and I have received TYs from OOT weddings (where we spent a boatload of money ourselves just to be there) the B&G spent more card space thanking us for being there than for the gift we gave.
I've never heard of this being common or "the norm" -- but I wouldn't be too concerned with that. You know your friends and family better than anyone. If you genuinely want to thank them again for traveling and spending time with you, definitely feel free
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