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vows...what do you guys think?

soon to be mrs phamsoon to be mrs pham member
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I wasnt going to write my own vows but i found myself writting today... what do you guys think? keep them or scrap them entirely? 

We all know that ive been up here once before with a man much diffrent than you. Their were promises made that i dont know if either of us intended to keep. Tears were shed over flowery words that were said more for their beauty then reality. Now years later i stand here again with you. What do i have for you?

i have only myself to give. What i have i give to you freely with no thought of return. I give you my time, yours to spend any way you want. i give you my thoughts spent on your happiness. I give you my love that overfills because of you. I give you my actions helping you anyway i can and i give you all that i am and will be. I give you my past present and future. You are my love, the one i should have married then if only i had known you. You are the one i want to grow old with, you are the one i want to raise children with, your the one i want to wake up to every morning. I promise you that i will love you till i die and keep myself only unto you cherishing you and caring for you above all else. Christopher i love you with my whole heart and soul i used to think i knew what that meant but youve shown me that it means so much more. Thank you my love for  asking me to be your wife. I gladly accept.
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    Didn't read the whole thing.  BUT -- I think that the point where you are saying vows to your new husband is significantly the wrong time to mention your first marriage. ~Donna
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  • Scarlet Starlet 31Scarlet Starlet 31 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_vowswhat-guys-think?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:0de7f68e-f4e4-4b7b-b25d-176efcf56df8Post:9e20d6b2-29de-482d-8744-99403b26ce15">Re: vows...what do you guys think?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Didn't read the whole thing.  BUT -- I think that the point where you are saying vows to your new husband is significantly the wrong time to mention your first marriage. ~Donna
    Posted by right1thistime[/QUOTE]

    Completely agreed.
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  • vexievexie member
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    edited December 2011
    The second paragraph is beautiful... but I agree that your vows are *not* the time to mention vows made to another man.  Skip that part.  Please.
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  • IslandBeachBrideIslandBeachBride member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto, I would dump anything that has to do with the 1st marriage.  Everyone already knows it didn't work which is why you are no longer in that relationship. No reason to mention the ex, the bad relationship and the hurt he caused.  The day you marry is a new beginning so focus on that.  :)
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  • mybooboosmybooboos member
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    edited December 2011
    Very nice, but drop the first paragraph.  When saying your vows to him, your first words should not be reminders of your first wedding.  Focus on the feelings you have today, with him.  Nothing else matters...
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    Skip first para - otherwise very nice
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  • Browneyes72Browneyes72 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm with everyone else, leave the first paragraph out.
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  • soon to be mrs phamsoon to be mrs pham member
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    edited December 2011
    yeah i think i agree i'll oust the first paragraph.
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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    If you delete the mentions of your first wedding, I think it's lovely.
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  • ichellemay1ichellemay1
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    edited December 2011
    I'm with everyone else....  Don't mention the first wedding.
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  • soon to be mrs phamsoon to be mrs pham member
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    edited December 2011
    so if i just use this part are their any changes i need to make?

    i have only myself to give. What i have i give to you freely with no thought of return. I give you my time, yours to spend any way you want. i give you my thoughts spent on your happiness. I give you my love that overfills because of you. I give you my actions helping you anyway i can and i give you all that i am and will be. I give you my past present and future. You are my love, the one i should have married then if only i had known you. You are the one i want to grow old with, you are the one i want to raise children with, your the one i want to wake up to every morning. I promise you that i will love you till i die and keep myself only unto you cherishing you and caring for you above all else. Christopher i love you with my whole heart and soul i used to think i knew what that meant but youve shown me that it means so much more. Thank you my love for  asking me to be your wife. I gladly accept
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