I don't even know where to begin!!!!! I got engaged about a month ago and NO ONE in my life is excited or happy about it.
I was in a MISERABLE abusive relationship for 11 years and have been apart from my first husband for over a year. I had NO INTENTION of marrying again and then I met my Fiance - he is the most wonderful man I've ever met and treats me like Gold.
Everyone thinks it's too soon and that I'm crazy - I can't talk about my wedding with anyone.
I don't want a HUGE eleaborate wedding, but I do want a wedding that is special and romantic and beautiful.
My best friends are not talking wedding with me and My mother refuses to talk about it either.
Everyone likes my Fiance........I just don't get it. I'm hurting so badly inside over all this.
Anyone face stuff like this?????
Re: Second wedding Troubles All around!
There are several prior posts about these situations. You can read them and see how many people there actually are who have family members who are unwilling to share in their happiness due to their own perceptions.
The people here are kind and understanding. Hopefully you'll find someone in your life who will be that person for you as well.
I checked your bio and see that you have almost 18 months for everyone to come around. Take your time, go slowly, and hopefully they will see you are doing the right thing. You can have whatever type of wedding you want.
Good luck.
Welcome to the board! I feel for you. It must be very disappointing for you that no one shares your excitiement. It is about you and your happiness.
That being said, perhaps everyone would just like you to get to know your FI better since you were in such a bad relationship before.
It takes a very long time to REALLY get to know someone, and I think taking your time is a good thing. Glad to hear you have an 18 month engagement.
If he's the prince you say he is I expect your family and friends will come around.
I have been in your shoes and I chose a real douche bag to get involved with and get married to. He was very abusive.
But the operative words here are "I chose to get married to him" When you come out of a horrible relationship with that much abuse, it is beneficial to take stock of why you chose that person, or chose to stay so you don't make the same mistake again. It concerns me that you are engaged only a year out from leaving your ex.
Have you taken any time for yourself, or did you jump from your ex to the FI??
Your best friends and family only want the best for you and they may see something in him that you don't.
Have a heart to heart with them and find out the exact concerns.
I wish you the very best of luck.
If you still have over a year, give it time. They will come around and get excited with you. If not, they have other problems and you should ask them why. I hope it gets better, because it can only be worse before it gets better. Just be open and ENJOY this wedding planning!
It's been discussed on this board before that no one is excited about your wedding or cares as much as you do, so we've been there. I have experienced the same thing with one of my sisters. She is supportive, but when we start talking wedding, she gives us the eye roll. But I love her and I know she's just not that into it and that's ok with me. She has been wonderful by goin gto try on gowns and has told me I look gorgeous in every single gown.
This is the place to dish everything wedding so keep posting here on all of your details.