2nd Marriage - DW - No Bridal Shower

melliott09

How many 2nd, or more, brides are out there who aren't having a bridal shower?

We are having a small DW in July, only family is attending, and I have NO desire to have a bridal shower.

We have lived together for 6 years, own a house together, and have children already....

My sisters are thinking I'm crazy, but I don't want one. I just want my family to witness our wedding, thats it!

Sloane99

No shower for me either, and also a DW. We made it very clear that we did not want gifts and we were very happy that people were spending time and money to come to our wedding. My Mom, FMIL and wedding party took me out for a great dinner and I really enjoyed the girl time with the ladies I was closest to, far more than I ever would have enjoyed a shower or stagette or anything.

gnyzgrl

Same here.  We're not having a DW but a small wedding, 60 family & close friends.  No shower, we have everything we need.

2dBride

We had friends who wanted to plan a shower for us.  We explained that if they did, we would not show up.  ;-)

SueR13

We're not having a DW, but didn't want a shower. FI's daughter offered to make us one. I felt it wasn't necessary.

I did have a small shower at work which was nice.

suzieharris

In my opinion, Bridal showers are over rated!  The guests that would attend are usually coming to your wedding and most of them feel obligated to buy a gift for that.  Times are too tough right now to expect people to purchase two gifts. 

Britt1406

I don't want a shower... most of the people that were at my shower from my first wedding are still my friends. I don't want them to feel obligated to come to another shower and buy another gift. Although, FMIL and FSIL have asked a couple times if I was having one and I hope they don't try to plan a surprise shower.

AdelphiTN

No shower or gifts for me. I let all my friends know that i don't want that stuff! But i'm open to anyone who wants to buy me a margarita.

hsbstone

In a usual situation I would not want one for several reason well appointed above, but my friends from Italy want to throw a "lingerie shower" for me and I've agreed with it.
Most of them won't attend the Destination Wedding, some will attend the reception in Italy, and all of them had been in my previous wedding and in my husband funeral as well and they are thrilled that I've found love again and will get married after such big tragedy in my life...I will have the lingerie shower and will love to meet them again, and I am sure we will have a great time!!1

nmauser82

I honestly don't know if I will have a shower but I suspect that I will and that is fine with me. This is my second but FI's first. We live closer to his family now, and I would not be surprised if his family threw us a shower. If they did, my family would likely not attend because they live on the other side of the country. My mom would come and posibly my bridesmaids but thats it. It would be all his family. So it would be a completely different crowd than my first shower.

Ken&Cass

No shower, no bachelorette party.

Lisa50

No bridal shower for me. 

embracejoy

Second marriage for us too, also a destination wedding, and as far as I know, no bridal shower.  I wouldn't want one anyway.  We don't need anything for our home.  I had a shower for my first wedding, and it was awfully dull and uncomfortable -- I'm not a fan of opening gifts in front of people!

We're not interested in bachelor and bachelorette parties, either.  We're toying with the idea of going wine tasting with our friends and family before the wedding, but we live in the wine country of Northern CA, so it's not an activity that would require a lot of planning...