So the first time around I did not have a bridal shower. This time I want one, only because I am actually excited about this man to be my husband. How in the heck do I let anybody know I am willing to have one? And who throws it? We are not have attendants, so MOH and BMs are out of the question. I don't want to come off as a gift hungry second bridezilla, because I am not (yet).
Any ideas? Thanks!
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Re: Shower....
It's just a suggestion.
Unless they are simple, they'll pick up on the hint. Damn, we're all older and not bound to the "rules," mention it to someone and offer to even help throw it. The guests don't have to know and are you really going to feel THAT bad about having had a hand in doing something that is fun and makes you happy?
You choose to have no attendants, but the shower thing usually falls to either attendants or family (in some areas even family thrown showers are verboten). Speak to either your best friend or your close family. If they take the cue, you'll have a shower. If not, can you throw a girls luncheon? NOT a shower, per se, but a daytime event that you host (and pay for) to spend some fun time with the women you love best? ~Donna
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I care much more about my friends' feelings than I do some ridiculous rule of etiquette that is completely subjective - and I'd hope I had good enough friends to feel the same.
I agree that just celebrating is a good thing. Everyone jumped to "gift grabby," whereas I was thinking "bringing the women in her life together to celebrate."
Call if a lunch out with the ladies to discuss wedding stuff and screw the word shower. It doesn't have to be such an ordeal, I promise.
EDIT: I also want to point out that I DO NOT advocate "throwing parties for yourself to get gifts." This just seems like something that is important to her since she did not have it the first time around and is genuinely happy about this marriage. We encore brides are constantly being told what "isn't acceptable," simply because we've done it all before. If she had a full wedding party and they were offering to throw her showers left and right, she'd be flamed on here for accepting them. If she doesn't have the full wedding party, she misses out on something that, quite frankly, I think is a really fun pre-wedding ritual - all for what? The sake of not looking tacky to strangers? I guess I just have more faith in my friends and family for knowing me, why I'd want something, and how it could be handled tastefully. I really don't like thinking of anyone having to miss a shower-type event AGAIN. It's just not right.
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My MOH is my 12 year old daughter, and the rest of my maids live in NY, while I am in VA. The possibility of having a shower are zip, and I am ok with that. I think its a great idea to have a "bridal luncheon" to celebrate your upcoming marriage.