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Having a freak out moment~

A week after FI proposed in April, the center diamond in my ring cracked (it was an internal flaw that had feathered out). Life time warranty so it was repared. But it took nearly 5 weeks to get it back from the jeweler. Picked it back up from the jeweler on June 23rd. Fast forward to yesterday. Was sitting at my desk at the office and turned my ring and noticed the center stone was loose. Not just wiggly, LOOSE! I could have easily taken the stone out with my nail.

I probably shouldn't be freaking out, but now I am. I feel like both of these things happening in such rapid succession is a sign that we shouldn't get married. Has anyone else had such bad luck with this? We've been together 4 years, have a 2 year old son and have been living together for the better part of that 4 years.
Sorry if this seems rambling, I'm just a worrier..

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Re: Having a freak out moment~

  • edited December 2011
    I think your problem lies with your jeweler, not with your Fi - at least from the limited info you provide. 

    If I were in your shoes, I would be freaking out at the jeweler, big time. ~Donna
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_having-freak-out-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:51dd199b-fc59-40ea-b67f-531234825ed9Post:48f2e434-5578-4e28-8044-1f7492d35f85">Re: Having a freak out moment~</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think your problem lies with your jeweler, not with your Fi - at least from the limited info you provide.  If I were in your shoes, I would be freaking out at the jeweler, big time. ~Donna
    Posted by right1thistime[/QUOTE]

    Donna - please get out of my head. Kelly


    Seriously - why would you jump to "a sign" that you shouldn't get married when the jewelry is at issue?  I'd be getting ALL of my money back and going to a more reputable jeweler. 
  • edited December 2011
    Ditto PPs.  The only reason to consider it "a sign" is if you're looking for "a sign" because your gut told you that you were making a mistake.  And that's only if you aren't able to be honest with yourself....

    Please don't base your relationship on a piece of jewelry.  If you have concerns about your relationship, address them.  If not, just find a new jeweler!

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  • shalynnpshalynnp member
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    edited December 2011
    We've tried to get the money back from the jeweler and so far they're saying no returns. If this fix doesn't take then I will be taking my complaint to their manager. FI is too nice of a guy to complain, and hates being mean to people. I don't really have concerns about our relationship, and we have a very open line of communtication. I think I'm freaking out more because I'm just overwhelmed. We've had several HUGE issues (his xw and my xh are trying to make things a nightmare) come up with planning recently and it just felt like the icing on the cake.

    Thank you for the reality check though :) I need to just calm down and let it be.
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  • edited December 2011
    jewelry is jewelry. the only thing this is a sign of is that you need a better jeweler.

    you'll find "signs" everywhere if you're looking for them, and if you're looking for them, something's up. maybe time for a chat with your FI, to calm yourself down and gain some perspective.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_having-freak-out-moment?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:51dd199b-fc59-40ea-b67f-531234825ed9Post:c8241c8e-faa0-4fae-a1d4-15f4f79b80a1">Re: Having a freak out moment~</a>:
    [QUOTE] I think I'm freaking out more because I'm just overwhelmed. We've had several HUGE issues (his xw and my xh are trying to make things a nightmare) come up with planning recently and it just felt like the icing on the cake. Thank you for the reality check though :) <strong>I need to just calm down and let it be.</strong>
    Posted by shalynnp[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>This!  I think we all get to that point where we just have to calm down and have a reality check at some point.  I had my own breakdown this weekend, so I understand.  Good luck finding a new jeweler!

    </div>
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    It's the jeweler not the FI - it sounds like when they reset/replaced the stone they didn't retip the prongs.  Make them replace the mounting head with a new one with new prongs. 


  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    You don't say what shape stone you have, or what is causing it to loosen. My engagement ring is a pear shape, and the prong at the pointy end doesn't have much to catch onto. The last time I took it to the jeweler he moved the prongs a tad to make sure they catch more than they were previously.

    I think your jeweler needs to give you a different ring for the same price, or perhaps add a prong or 2 in order to make sure it is SECURE.

    Good luck.
  • edited December 2011
    Sounds like it's telling you that you need a new jeweler, and that is ALL it's telling you!
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