Wow, I'm old and out dated!

Jells2dot0

My first wedding was back in 2004 in Baltimore and I spent a TON of time planning and chatting on here. I had a blast. Now that I'm back in the swing of things, I started to share some advice on the boards based on my past wedding, and it appears I'm a little outdated! I was told my martini bar choices were old and tired. Boo! LOL Has anyone else shared advice and and found themselves a little out of date or even just when planning your new wedding, finding that things you wanted are now not considered "in style"? I haven't gotten that far yet with my plans, but who knows what I'll find out next?!

Sue-n-Kevin

I haven't had a first wedding, but I'm SURE I'm outdated......... on my local board and wedding month board I'm like everyone's Mom, but I don't mind.

I used to feel old fashioned until my now 24 y/o son started asking my advice...... now I just feel wise, LOL.

Jells2dot0

It's sweet that your son asks for your advice! My soon to be step kids aren't close to be married (they are in their late teens), but they are starting to ask for advice and it's nice to feel smart rather than mean 

right1thistime

Well, since my my first wedding was in 1984, I guess that a few things would be out of style.  And since my most recent wedding was in 2006-- maybe that's out of style too? 
But the truth is, I'm not much for style anyway.  ~Donna

Marrin713

First wedding was 1979 and second was 2010, so yeah a little out of style.

mybooboos

If it's "your" style, than it's not out of style...

2dBride

My first wedding was in 1977.  There were a whole lot of ways in which styles had changed since then.  I liked some of the ways, and incorporated them.  But I just ignored the styles I didn't like.

lindaloulubbock

I think I'm at the in-between age where I just feel stuck!  I'm too young to be old, out-dated, or wise; but too old to be young, fresh, and hip. LOL.

I'm completely stuck on bar choices because I don't know "what kids are drinking these days."  And by kids, I mean my friends that still enjoy going out and having fun vs staying in, watching Harry Potter, and eating pancakes for dinner...

handfast4me

Yeah, I got married in 1985 the first time.  I don't think anyone serves little tiny quiches and potato skins for appetizers any more.  My dress would still be in style, though.  Very 40's inspired. 

This time, I got married in 2008.  There are many idiots on these board (and this one in particular) who believe that I didn't have a "real wedding" because it was just the two of us, and we didn't have a recpetion, etc.   What a bunch of a$$hats.   If you had to get divorced, it was, in fact, a REAL wedding, whether there was a party afterwards with hundreds of people or not. 

Do what YOU want.  While you should try to make your guests feel comfortable, the most important thing is that at the end of the day, you're married to a great guy.  What cocktails you serve is really unimportant in the long run. 

Jells2dot0

handfast- that is horrible that someone didn't think the marriage was real! I'm having a DW the second time around and noone else will be there. It will be a simple ceremony- no reception, no music, no centerpieces, no shower beforehand. I'm not even really telling many people before we leave! Just my personal choice because of some family drama from the last wedding. My marriage will surely be 100% real and I guess I have been super lucky that everyone around me has been super supportive (so far) of our choice to marry.

So, needless to say, when I was giving advice about the martini bar, I was telling the knottie about the martinis I chose for my first wedding. Part of her response was because she is from NYC and I guess they are ahead of PHX on so many levels. LOL Some people's kids!

handfast4me

Hey Jell, yeah, you'll see it around here, unfortunately, quite often.  The women who want do-overs because "I didn't have a REAL wedding last time because I just ran off to the JOP."  It's so insulting to those of us who did it that way, and consider it romantic, and great, and a lot less stress and money!   Blah.  :-P

bridebombing

I was on the Knot in 2004/5 for my first wedding...it's kind of weird being back here now.  A lot of stuff has changed, lots of new designated boards.  It's strange to be back in the same place but (hopefully) wiser this time around.

bridebombing

Also, regarding your ideas being outdated, no one from the Knot will be at your wedding, right?  Don't worry about what they think.  If I learned anything from my first wedding, it was to not give a damn what anyone else thinks or says.

awayagain

I advise everybody to go with grey tuxes and mauve BM dresses - with giant butt bows - because some things never go out of style!

jdrose5

My first wedding was in 1994 so add me to the outdated club.  LOL 

I did the simple people said I might as well have eloped last time because at 18 I didn't have the money for a more formal to-do.   So this time I am doing the more formal plan because-- I want this wedding to be different.   I don't want to feel like I am having a do over, or repeat.  I feel like my last wedding was special, and I want this one to be special as well.   So that means doing things different to me.