SInce this is the second time around, FI and I are both excited to keep things simple and easy, but I'm still starting to act a little crazy and whiny. The current, and hopefully only, issue is finding an engagement ring.
We're shopping together and I'll be the one picking it out for the most part. Saturday I found "the one", but it's way over budget. I'm trying to realize that just because we're "grown up" and have more resources doesn't mean I can have everything I want. I alternate between wanting to scream "BUT I WANT IT!!" and then really yelling "Why does it have to be such an ordeal to just be married and have babies!?"
So, big picture advice on how to not go crazy over a wedding with a guest list of 9, and thoughts on how to get over the ring I can't have?
Re: Disappointment, Engagement Rings, and Impending Bridezilla
Well, one of my FB friends happened to be showing off her new engagement ring and well I want one like hers!! Argh!!!!
I'll wait a couple years and upgrade...lol
Sooo, with that said, don't settle?
Here are our three rings - my wedding ring, engagement ring and his wedding ring. All were purchased from Blue Nile.
Or wait to get the ring, keep saving until you have the money for the ring you want. There's no rule that says you are not allowed to get married without an engagement ring. ~Donna
Last night I exlaimed "I have a problem!" "I really love that ring and can't stop thinking about it" Told him we need to keep looking so I can fall in love with something in our range, but he said "you should have the one you want, we'll get it." Ugh, so sweet, and I would certainly appreciate it, but I don't want something so excessive.
If I've done my profile right, there is a photo there, and we are considering working with the jeweler to scale it down to fit our range. But we will also continue shopping.
http://www.pennypreville.com/collection/bridal-collection/engagement-rings/catherine
http://www.e14k.com/
The first picture isn't my exact ring cause like I said it was a mom and pop store and they make all their own jewelry but it's very similar to give you an idea of the great ring I found. The second picture isn't very good but it is my actual ring.
Mrs Paz, that is a gorgeous ring!
I'm with the "wait until you can afford it" crowd. Before my fiance & I were actually looking at rings, or deciding on a date, we happened to pass a "Mom & Pop" jewelry store that was going out of business. We walked in and I tried on dozens of rings. They had another location closer to his house, and we went there also. Found the ring I fell in love with, and it was 25% of the original (probably greatly marked up) price. Because they would only accept cash, we ran to his bank, then mine, and withdrew enough. We then waited for months before becoming formally engaged (this was due to family reasons).
Check around with smaller (not chain) jewelers, lesser known ones. Also, you can try pawn shops......... I know a lot of people have built in doubts about that, but honestly, they are just previously owned-warned rings, and often much less than "new" ones.
Nobody likes debt, but if you serisously don't like the diamond, it will forever play on your mind, as my 1st diamond did - I saved all my work bonuses to pay for the upgrades myself, and was very happy with that.
So, my suggestion is to just go with it, and upgrade or change it up when you can afford it. If there's a will, there's a way!
There are always going to be things you want, but cannot have. I would keep looking, if I were you. When I first started looking at rings, I thought bigger meant better, but then I found my ring and I fell in love! Just keep looking and don't hold onto what you cannot have. It is just a "thing", after all and as long as you get married, are happy and have those babies, everything else should fall by the wayside!
Interestingly, I thought I wanted a square cut diamond, with emerald cut diamonds on either side. However, when I tried that on, it didn't look good on my hands, which are very, very long, but thin. I ended up with a round/brilliant cut with a vintage-style setting and 5 small diamonds on either side. So, just like dresses, you gotta try 'em on!!
[QUOTE]Uhoh, ring dilemma sucks! My FI got the ring I thought I wanted - simple princess cut solitare. Well, one of my FB friends happened to be showing off her new engagement ring and well I want one like hers!! Argh!!!! I'll wait a couple years and upgrade...lol Sooo, with that said, don't settle?
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Ohhh! your current ring is the one I want! <div>
</div><div>What we did was this...We discussed our personal and joint style and priorities. They were fairly aligned. We pulled up the website of our jeweler and chose a stone that fit our budget and then chose a simple setting together. </div>
This is my e ring:
http://www.jewelsforme.com/alexandrite-engagement-ring-14k-white-gold-i2003rr-14
I absolutely love it! I also love the fact that it is eco-friendly and didn't drag us into debt. I wouldn't want it if it was something that would stress us financially. However, I wouldn't let the ring being 'the ring' or not stop the progress of wedding. We had planned on eloping months before he even gave me my ring...it was just the icing on the cake!