So this is my second marriage and everyone wants me to have a shower and bachelorette party but in my mind I feel weird like my family and friends will be like another wedding, shower, bachelorette party....do I register! I don't know how to feel....been 7 years since my first wedding....what do you think? I feel like I should have a shower so my fiance can expierence things he shouldn't not have that....but I just feel like I shouldn't for some reason....what do you girls think!
Re: My second his first....shower? Bachelorette Party?
There is a post titled "It's normal' (or something like that) on the second page of posts. I would suggest you read it. I think you will feel a little better, we all have different feeling the second time around.
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My 1st wedding was 4 years ago. But this is FI's first.
His family is so excited, and want to go through all the traditions like a shower.
However, I know my mom all ready threw me a BEAUTIFUL shower, and I just can't ask her to do it again.
So, what I suggested to my MOH to tell them (because I thought it would be awkward & inappropriare for me to dictate anything like a shower) was just to have a lowkey shower, even a BBQ at MOH's house. Maybe even have everyone bring a dish of food instead of a gift.
We are registering, but not for a lot. We just bought a house in November and have most of the basics.
Bottom line is what PP'ers said: go with what other people want to do for you.
Being married is a real thriller!
Love is a celebration, not a number or timeline. If your friends and family do not agree, they do not have to participate. I'd be very upset if a man implied that our new life together was less special simply because he'd been there and done that. I'd also be very disappointed in my friends and family if they couldn't separate the past from the present/future.
Good luck and I hope you can celebrate this new love, and life, the way it truly deserves to be.
Congrats on your engagement! Please accept a shower if folks want it for you, it is the gracious thing to do for him and his family so they can share in the excitement. This is your first time marrying him. Enjoy. Celebrate. you.deservie it.
My sisters are throwing me a shower and I plan on inviting everyone. If someone doesn't want to come just send regets, and they are still invited to the wedding!!
As for your fiance, most guys, not all, don't really care about the shower. They'd rather not be around a bunch of women with the spot light on them.
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It's about celebrating your new life/relationship, not about what kind of gifts you get.
i didn't have any parties, or festivities at my first it was a quick courthouse deal with a small reception dinner at a steakhouse in town,, not a lot of joy let me tell you, i am looking forward to actually having a wedding!