I made the mistake of trying to post on my local "New Jersey" board and ended up frustrated with the level of maturity that I encountered on there. I tried to state my opinion how some of the girls on there have been married for over a year already and was attacked over it and then when they realized I was married before I was attacked over that. One girl actually posted why should we take advice from someone that has been divorced. Stupid girl should realize those of us that have been divorce probably know more and should be taking advice from us. We lived and learned from our mistakes. What really pushed me over the edge was when one girl posted that I can not use proper grammar because I am taking care of my precious kids. I could not believe what I was hearing. One girl even said that she doesn't have kids but when she does her and her husband will always come first.... unbelievable! I should have just come to this board first instead of going there. Sorry for venting......Anyway, I am from NJ and getting married June 4th to a wonder guy that is great with my 2 boys. He has never been married before so he really wanted to have a local wedding. I wanted to go to an island but I understand he wanted the whole wedding thing. We are keeping it very small just about 60 people. I am looking forward to getting some advice from you girls on involving the kids in the ceremony and what you are and are not doing this time around.
Re: Hi Everyone
It is amazing how a little life experience can go a long way My fiance has two kids (daughter 15 and son 11) who I really wanted to be in the ceremony. Since we are keeping the wedding very small (less than 50 people) I came up with the idea to ask the kids to be our MOH and BM respectivley. My soon to be step-daughter was thrilled when I asked her.
I am amazed at how different my outlook is on the second time around. It is going to be much simpler and what I want instead of what everyone else wants.
I'm in a similar position to your fiance, it's my first wedding too. But I'm a much older bride, and while it seems weird to want the whole elegant wedding at my age, too bad.
Incorporating your kids into the ceremony shouldn't be that difficult. My fiance and I have older kids, so it's different. Perhaps when you are going through your vows, you can have your boys standing on either side of you, so it feels as though your fiance is acknowledging his pending relationship with all of you?
We have 18 months until our wedding, so I'm debating on getting a piece of jewelry for each of our kids, something like a claddagh ring or pendant. They may not wear it, but it will be a momento of the wedding for them, and they'll know we have their hearts in our hands for the rest of our lives together.
The sand ceremony should be fine, and I agree, with young ones, practice is key. I also wouldn't use glass containers, try clear plastic.
Welcome, and good luck. The ladies on this board are very mature and non-critical.
[QUOTE]Maybe since you need to lose 25 pounds you should be staying away from Chili's
Posted by springbride0108[/QUOTE]
Above is what she said about me and my post that influenced that was not directed to her, but to another girl about having too many margaritas at Chili's.
I said nothing to her and was not there to defend myself. I am the type of person that believes everyone should be treated with respect, so that is how I live and treat anyone. What she said about me was uncool and disrespectful.
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Since joining the board in 2007, I have been cautious about anyone who starts off with "I was attacked." There's usually a reason, not just because someone's been married before.
(edited to clarify this was said on this, her first post on SW)
I've seen some of her other postings prior to this thread. I tend not to respond to her for a reason.