I'm trying to plan a wedding for this July and it's my second wedding and his first. We want small and intimate and under $5000. Which so far has been completely doable. I have the guest list of absolute must invite and it comesout to 64 people. He's kvetching that I have 31 family members and he only has 18.
I'm sorry I can't help that I have more uncles and aunts than you. I can't go back in time and make you grandparents get it on more. I can't help that I have more siblings than you. I can't invite people that don't exist so you have and "even" amount of people.
It's fair but it's not equal. We both have parents, my grandmother (only on on this generational tier that's alive) siblings/spouses, aunts/uncles. I cut out all cousins on both sides. I have included extremely close friends that have always been supportive to us and that comes out to about 18. He's not quibbling about the friends. He's trying to firgure out who on my side to cut out so it's equal.
Grrrr. He's just not getting it that it can't happen that way. He has no wiggle room.