2 years ago when FI and I got serious and spoke about marriage, I wanted to elope. I remember my wedding being so stressful... His first wedding though, and over the past 2 years, I've started to really just want those special memories with him too.
The first wedding - I spent 2 years planning every little detail very meticulously and I was stressed out about it every step of the way, especially the closer it got. I gained 25 lbs in a few months. Granted, I was also doubting that I should marry the guy that whole time.
This time, I was really stressed for a month as we were trying to book a wedding at a lake house but it was way too much work for me and as soon as we booked a venue that went away. All vendors are booked and behind me..and with the exception of FMIL issues...I've been incredibly calm and laid back about everything. i'm not a laid back person.... I wonder if it's because I've matured or because I'm just happy now. Either way, I'm likin it!
Re: Anyone else way less stressed this time?
The second time, I had far more time for planning, so things weren't as stressed in that regard. And I got two receptions. The first, immediately following the ceremony, was an intimate luncheon at which we could afford to provide top-quality food and drink, because there were so few guests (and none of them were the alcoholic relatives). We scheduled it for two hours, but even with no entertainment besides eating and catching up with each other, it ran for 2.5 and they pretty much had to shovel people out the door at the end. Three days later, we had the at-home reception, which was an evening reception with music and dancing.
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Ditto here. Last time it was all about competing with and impressing friends and family. This time it's about honoring the occasion of us joining our lives and going forward together. Like a pp said, not sure whether it's maturity or whether it's just because he is the right one this time, but I feel so excited every time I think about it, no stress at all. This is how I should have felt before the first one, back when I was young and dumb and had my whole life ahead of me, but I never did. I don't remember feeling any doubt, but I know I never felt this happy. And it's wonderful.
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The first go round I was very "whatever" about stuff and did a lot of what both families wanted. Everything became so much more extravegant than I wanted. But I went w/ it.
This time.....I'm stressing. Its sad but I feel like its more important? Does that make sense?
Interesting that either way, people indicate a sharp contrast from their first.
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