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FI's xW made up a rumor that I cheated on FI!

JenJune3JenJune3
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So my FI's xW told FI this morning when he dropped the kids off at her house that she knows someone who "saw me cheat on him last May when he was out of town" the thing is 1. I would NOT cheat on him and 2. I was out of town that time too so how could she know someone that knew and saw me 4 hours from where we live? WTF! I'm sooooo pissed right now! I knew she was about to do something like this because it's very obvious she wants to get back together with him! I'm so completely mad right now! FI of course doesn't believe her but it still gives him a bad feeling in his stomach!! HELP ME!!
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Re: FI's xW made up a rumor that I cheated on FI!

  • NJ JenNJ Jen member
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    edited December 2011
    Sounds like she loves drama. Is this fairly typical for her?

    Are you prepared for this for the rest of your life? Are you confident in his trust for you?

    I would find this extraordinarily stressful....
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  • JenJune3JenJune3
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    edited December 2011
    He doesn't believe her at all but still I can't imagine how that made the pit of his stomache feel when she said that! I can't believe she would even say something like that that supposedly happend 11 months ago! GET OVER IT!!! FI knows I would never cheat on him!
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    If FI does not believe her, then move forward.  She's obviously in a panicked state over your upcoming marriage.  As PP said, be prepared for more of the same.  Unfortunately, it sounds like exW is all about the drama.
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  • SweetestofMusesSweetestofMuses
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    edited December 2011
    He trusts you, not her. He has a child with her and needs to maintain civility for the kids' sake. I know it's hard to deal with dumb crap like this, but know that she'll probably try to pull drama like this even after you're married. Buckle down and treat her with as much niceness as you can. "Kill her with kindness" - advice from my grandma to me ;)
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    There are kids involved?  How unfortunate.  Maybe the upcoming wedding is bringing up issues for exW.  I guess avoiding reacting would be best.  Don't reinforce her behavior by giving her what she wants (which is a scene).
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  • JenJune3JenJune3
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    edited December 2011
    Yes I agree and I'm more calm now! FI of course knew she was making it up but it still pissed me off that she would say that to him (smiling while she said it!) I was just very very livid for a few minutes but now I'm just laughing at her to myself! Thanks for letting me vent!
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  • pamila51510pamila51510
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    edited December 2011
    Someone hasn't moved on! SOrry you have to deal with that but I agree you are going to have to deal with her until she comes to terms with him moving on!
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