Catholic wedding- our second wedding

christinalouvierre

We have both been married before (by justice of the peace) well this is the one we both agree we were ment to be and HE wants to get married in his families church. I am just wondering if this is even a posibility for us . Any help would be greatly appreciated

MikesAngie

You both have been married before to other people (each of you by JoP), correct? I'm a little confused... Thanks.

christinalouvierre

yes married by justice of the peace but not to each other

right1thistime

You will both need annulments, and I am not an expert on that but I think since you were not married religiously, you may be able to get the quicker version.  Which still means you won't be able to reserve a date in the Church until it is granted. ~Donna

UTTER5864

You might check out the Catholic board under Cultural Wedding Board.  They will probably be able to answer your questions.  I do know that you will both need an annulment and that the process usually is very long, so the sooner you start the better. 

mattsdorothy

I grew up Catholic, but it has been awhile since I have been to church, so I am not 100% sure of the ins and outs, but I will share what I know:
Your former marriages have to be annulled by the Catholic Church. Annullments are granted for certain prescribed reasons (or at least that was my experience) - abuse, infidelity, the refusal to have children once married, etc.
One of my friend's mothers, a member of the Church, got divorced, was not granted an annullment, and the priest of our church would not let her use the multi-purpose building for her wedding reception after her second marriage because she was a divorcee. It can be a sticky situation.
My advice is to candidly speak to your priest. Tell him it is important to both of you to be married in the eyes of the Catholic Church. Ask him how he can help you accomplish that. If you are not currently Catholic (baptized and confirmed) you will have to take steps to become Catholic before you can be married in the Church.
I hope that helps you! Best of luck to you.

Marrin713

I thought since first marriage was not in a Catholic church it won't even be recognized as a marriage.  Probably better to go to the other board and check there.

blush64

If you have not been married in the Catholic church you won't need an annulment from it. You should be fine to be married.

When my aunt and uncle wanted to be married only she needed an anullment because he had never been married in the Catholic church before. (and wasn't Catholic) So, maybe it's easier then.

Also, both people marrying in the church don't have to be Catholic. And of one person isn't, they don't need to convert.

I have looked into anullment because I was married in the church before. I would seriously go to the archdiocese site for the city you live in. I have researched this already so I am speaking from experience. BUT this was where I live so you'll want to speak with someone closer to home.

You can even look up information on the website for your archdiocease.

Edited to simplify response.

(Any information I have given was given to me by my priest and the Archdiocease where I live, other than the personal experiences of my aunt, none of this is misinformation)

IAmLymelady

My mother was married in a Christian church to her ex-husband; when she married my father, they were definitely able to get married in the Catholic Church, but she had to get an annulment.  It was really simple because it wasn't a Catholic marriage the first time.

Talk to his priest; he's going to know your specific archdiocese better than anyone on the boards will, but I suspect that your only trouble will be a bit of paperwork and perhaps a filing fee for that paperwork.

2dBride

Hmm, a lot of incorrect information here.  Here's the scoop:

1.  Both of you will need to get an annulment before you can remarry in the Catholic Church.  This is true regardless of whether you are Catholic, and regardless of whether the prior marriage was in a Catholic Church.

2.  The annulment process is simplified if you are Catholic and were married outside of the Catholic Church without convalidation or permission of the Church.  This simplified form is not, however, available to a nonCatholic whose previous marriage was outside of the Catholic Church.

3.  An annulment cannot directly be based on factors such as infidelity, which occured after the marriage.  Instead, is must be based on factors present as of the date of the prior marriage.  In some instances, you could use later infidelity as proof that he lacked the maturity on the wedding day to understand the meaning of marriage.   However, if he went into the marriage with the proper understanding and agreement to marriage, but just was unable to resist temptation years later, that is not a basis for an annulment.

4.  You definitely want to talk to a priest as soon as possible if you want to get married in the Catholic Church.  There are variations in policy among the different diocese regarding annulments.  Also, the process can take quite a long time, so you want to start as soon as possible.