Brief background, and then advice would be appreciated!
I am BM for college best friend. Her MOH is 18 year old, straight edge sister, so I'm throwing this party
. Friend and fiance would like to have festivities together (so not true "bachelorette" party), and in the city they met in, which is nearby for many, but a number of people and the guests of honor will be coming from across the state.
General plan is dinner and night on the town at all their old favorite spots. Possibly rent a cottage close enough to walk it instead of limo (in a small beach town), but no guarantees.
First: I would like to plan something for just the ladies in the afternoon that 1. MOH can attend and enjoy, and 2. Everyone will enjoy. My thoughts are golf or picture scavenger hunt or some kind of "spa day" at the rented place. Any ideas/thoughts?
Next: Invites or word of mouth or what?
Also: What's appropriate as far as who pays and how do I address it if it's split? From other boards, it seems normal for guests to chip in on any rentals/activities that they use/participate in, and that will be easy for golf or dinner, but I'm not sure how that would work for things that will be paid for up front. First of all, I don't want anyone to pay or feel responsible for something they either didn't use or want. I don't know many people on the guest list, so I don't have the option of addressing it casually. I'm comfortable footing the larger part of the bill and many items will go along with hostessing, but I want to do this right!
Re: Bachelorette party- Many questions :)
[QUOTE]<strong> In terms of how to address it, I think you should figure out what everything will cost, what you're willing and able to pay for yourself and what you're hoping to get help with. Be up front about any costs so that people can make informed decisions about whether they can afford to come or not.</strong> There's nothing worse than surprise costs on a group trip!
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</div><div>No, you need to ASK FIRST, then plan. Just like any party you need to know a budget because there might be people who can't spend more than $15 on something PLUS have to buy their own way in on certain activities. If you plan, then ask for X amount, their are going to be BMs that might have a problem with it and are annoyed that they had NO say in planning and feel pressured in paying. So ask the BMs their budgets first or if they even WANT to help, then plan the party.</div><div>
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