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vinnieandmegs

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crystaldbl

You need to have a conversation with them. I find that when there are messages being relayed between numerous people things tend to get twisted. Have a direct conversation and if they really want to back out then so be it. Move on and don't let them ruin this time of your life.

MairePoppy

Your cousins should have called you to try to work something out or tell you that they were dropping out. Why did your MOH put your mom in the middle of this situation? Why does your MOH speak for her sister? Why didn't you call her as soon as you were aware of the problem, instead of having your mom respond? This story doesn't make sense.

vinnieandmegs

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_maid-of-honor-bailed-as-did-her-sister-wedding-in-two-weeks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:53e1b3ef-55cf-4940-b8e0-9bbee82af044Post:1f6c1b04-adda-40dc-a187-ca6736b93cec">Re: Maid of Honor bailed, as did her sister! Wedding in two weeks.</a>:
[QUOTE]Your cousins should have called you to try to work something out or tell you that they were dropping out. Why did your MOH put your mom in the middle of this situation? Why does your MOH speak for her sister? Why didn't you call her as soon as you were aware of the problem, instead of having your mom respond? This story doesn't make sense.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

<div>Why are you so argumentative? I didn't come here to argue some more.</div>

MairePoppy

I wasn't arguing, merely asking a few common sense questions. If you had called your MOH to talk to her about the situation, then you, your mom, your aunt and your cousins might not be involved in a standoff.

Why are you so easily frustrated? Nevermind, I think I have a better understanding of what happened, now.

MairePoppy

Cooper, I'm very disappointed in myself. I should have seen the DD potential.

It was a long post, but here's the condensed version: The OP' s two cousins were in her wedding party; the oldest was to be the MOH. The MOH texted the MOB to let her know that the other sister's dress came in and didn't fit. MOH said that one solution would be for the two of them to step down. She asked the MOB to get back to her on it. MOB consulted bride, who told MOB to tell MOH that she accepted their 'resignation.' Now the MOH, bm, MOH's mother are angry at the bride and her mother. The two mothers are sisters. The MOH has decided not to attend the wedding.

Does it make sense to you that the bride and MOH used the MOB as a go between? I wonder if the MOH is rude or if the bride has been difficult to deal with.

After that, I saw on another thread that this MOB has cancer. What a shame she has to waste her energy on this nonsense. Megs - I'm very sorry that your mom is having serious health issues. Could you find it in your heart to call your cousins to patch things up? It would be nice if your mom could have the support of her family members during her illness.

*edit - spelling and grammar

Simply Fated

I feel like we're getting info out of context. Like, maybe the OP and the cousin had a falling out prior to this incident or something.

MairePoppy

I'm sorry the OP snapped at you. Quite uncalled for and unhelpful.
NBD. Anyone who has been here more then six months has probably been snapped at. With all the new holiday brides, this is par for the course for January. Valentines day will bring a new batch.

Simply Fated - The bm ordered her dress in the wrong size, so it's her own fault, but still, you'd think they could have worked something out, without causing a family fight.

Peledreamsofrain

Wow, I am scratching my head over here over why simple direct questions made the OP slip a nut.

I'm starting to get the idea that the reason everyone talks to the mother is because she's the sanest person to ask questions through.  I would drop out too if every question I had was met with "OMG YOU ARE ARGUING AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!"

duck and cover, cousins!

Maggie0829

Wait so, a BMs dress came in and didn't fit.  So instead of getting it altered the BM and her sister(?)/MOH decided that the best solution would be to drop out of the wedding party?  And they did all their discussion through the MOB not the bride?  How the hell old are all of these people?

This has to be one of the craziest issues I have heard in awhile.