Bridesmaid needs HELP!!

MrsKathyC

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[QUOTE]Well I'm not making any of this up. My friend needs all the help she can get. I have to take care of her as well as my own kids.
Posted by MandM2000[/QUOTE]

Well, IF thats actually true, maybe it's time to stop.  Time to let your friend grow up and make her own decisions.

jnjmommy0609

"She is dull"- why are you friends with her if you find her dull?

"I had to agree to be in her wedding so that things would get done"-you are basically calling her incapable of stepping it up. 

"She is clueless."

"I can't step down or she won't have a nice wedding day." Again you have no faith in your friend

Absolute best friends do not speak about the other the way you just did. I would never in a million years treat mine that way. I love mine dearly and I treat mine with respect and I know they can do anything they set their mind to. I just really can't grasp why you think it's okay to act this way towards her. 

zitiqueen

Maybe dull people who sound as if they are just a few IQ points from being diagnosed as clinically retarded are the only people who are willing to be friends with OP. It's the only explanation that makes any sense.

MairePoppy

Think back to the day when you were asked to be a bm. Did the bride actually ask you or did you volunteer?

Fluffernut

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[QUOTE]MUD? This poster seems to be touching on all the hot button issues.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

This.  Very much MUD.

Maggie0829

I really feel sorry for the bride in this situation.  She must have the patience of a saint.

rsanna

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[QUOTE]I really feel sorry for the bride in this situation.  She must have the patience of a saint.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

Ditto.  The OP even went to the May 2013 board and warned them about this "bridezilla".

ETA: OP, seriously.  You have blasted 2 boards with how your friend is being a bridezilla and ran to her month board (if she uses the site) telling them to watch out for her.  You are being a horrible friend talking trash and telling everyone how horrible she is.  Think about that.  And if the bride has seen the way you are acting, yeah I would want a new bridesmaid too. But even she is showing more tact than you by not kicking you out, though personally, what you are doing on here I would consider a friendship ending move.  I would hate to have strangers on the internet think I am some giant b!tch.

MandM2000

I volunteered to be her bridesmaid. I figured she needed the help. She really doesn't have any patience. She gets really mad all the time. She once told em that if it wasn't for already saying ok to picking out her bridal party, she would change things. That's not very nice!

MairePoppy

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[QUOTE]I volunteered to be her bridesmaid. I figured she needed the help. She really doesn't have any patience. She gets really mad all the time. She once told em that if it wasn't for already saying ok to picking out her bridal party, she would change things. That's not very nice!
Posted by MandM2000[/QUOTE]

MUD

But I like you anyway. You brought some drama to the Moms and Maids board. Thanks.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid needs HELP!! : MUD But I like you anyway. You brought some drama to the Moms and Maids board. Thanks.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

After that last post I definitely agree with this.  It was nice to have a bit of craziness on this board.

MairePoppy

Maggie, I'll bet the FMIL is wearing a long, white dress to the wedding and the MOB is an alcholic that might create a scene at the reception.

PJSPJS

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[QUOTE]  Newsflash -- your precious snowflakes aren't welcome everywhere.
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

Ha. Well said.

Muffin'sMom

Let's just call it MUD and call it a day.  Either that, or she is the most self absorbed person on the planet.  Whatever way it tilts...we should let this go.

aerinpegadrak

If this is all real, then you're a horrible person and a horrible friend.  You put yourself into the wedding party because you think she's incompetent?  I'm astonished she didn't tell you to go fucck yourself then and there.

You should link her to this post so she can know what you really think of her and how much better off she'd be without you in her life.

Frankly, if none of this is real, you're still a horrible person for this being your idea of a good time.  So yeah, you might want to take a deep look at yourself and reevaluate your life either way, because clearly you've made some pretty bad choices to end up here.

softballbabe1515

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[QUOTE]She absolutely can't have a nice wedding day without me. I'm her best friend.
Posted by MandM2000[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry but if you were one of my BM I wouldn't take your bossy attitude.  My MOH and another BM are planning my bach party and my MOH wanted to completely plan everything and wanted it to be a surprise but my BM was like well what do you want and my MOH was like yea I guess I should have asked that so we are doing what I want because it is sort of about me.  I want everyone to have fun so we are doing dinner then one bar in a bigger town then coming back to my house and jumping on a wagon and going for a hay ride around to other local bars.  Some people may not enjoy it that much but I know I will have fun.  In the end the whole wedding is about me and my fiance and our friends and family want us to have a fun and special day without being pushy.  One of my BM has been a little bossy like you seem to be but I just talked with her.  You need to realize that its not about you its about her and her fiance.  So back off and most likely the day will go perfectly with out without you.  You won't make the wedding perfect the bride and groom are the ones that will make it the best.  I can't believe you are so selfish and weird to say without you it woudln't be a nice day.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid needs HELP!! : She most certainly can and should if that is what they decide.  I'm sorry if you are on of those mom's who feels their kids must be invited to everything, but you are wrong.  Kids are NO different than any other class of guest be it neighbors, coworkers, or church family.  You don't have to invite all of them, and you don't have to invite all children.  <strong> Does anyone else see the undertones here of the posts from the bride who had the crazy MOH and the MOH who thought she had a clueless bride and had to stalk her and plan everything?</strong>
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]

That's EXACTLY who I was thinking. Not only is the attitude the same (OMG my friend NEEEEEEDS me to plan her wedding - tell her I'm right!!!!!!), but the same posting style.

DeannaCW

You say she's mad all the time. With you trying to take over everything and treating her like a mindless incompetent little thing, who can blame her? I'd be mad at you all the time too. I can't figure out why she's even friends with you.

pink34562000

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[QUOTE]I figured I would surprise her and the rest of the bridesmaids with the pyb crawl. But when I told her and the rest of the girls aout it, she said she didn't want that. I think it's really rude to turn down a party that someone planned for you. <strong>She never wants to go out and have fun, she's just dull.</strong> When she told us about the dreses, she said that such and such was the last day to get the dress and that we are responsible for getting the dress. It sounds to me like I'm being treated like a child, I don't NEED to be told that I have to get the dress by a certain day, I can figure it out on my own.
Posted by MandM2000[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>When it comes to bridal stores, the dresses have to be ordered at a certain time b/c it takes a while to make the dress then alterations if needed. The store probably told her the min. day the order the dresses, and she is just passing the information along. (My bridesmaids had to order their dresses a head of time. This is not unheard of.) </div><div>
</div><div>Plus, it is very nice of her to let all of her bridesmaids pick out their dresses. This way, you are not stuck with a dress you hate or can't afford. Most of the time, the bride shows you a dress and that's what you are wearing. Whether you like the dress or not. That is part of being a bridesmaid.</div><div>
</div><div>If you order your dress late and it doesn't come in before her wedding, what would you be wearing instead that would compliment her other bridesmaids? Why not, order your dress on time? I don't understand why you are making this a much bigger deal than what it is.</div><div>
</div><div>Also, her way of fun maybe different from your way of fun. She may prefer lunch/spa day with her close friends then going to a bunch of bars and getting drunk. Seriously? You called her dull? With friends like you, who needs enemies. You are being very mean to her and should apologize.</div><div>
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pink34562000

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[QUOTE]She seriously is clueless though. She's always saying that "the guest lsit is final" and good for her, it's a great start- but she won't even let my kids come to it. Her nephew can be there but I can't bring my kids?!
Posted by MandM2000[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I don't have kids, and I'm not always invited to every friends' kids' parties. These parties are for kids only. (I'm completely okay with this.) Just because someone is having a wedding for adults doesn't mean that their kids have to be invited. Some weddings are for adults only. I have 3 words - GET A BABYSITTER.</div><div>
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guardiangel6386

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[QUOTE]My children are her goddaughters. I don't understand why she doesn't consider them part of her family. <strong>I can't step down or she won't have a nice wedding day.</strong> I think she uses The Knot still, would anyone be willing to tell her she is wrong?
Posted by MandM2000[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>My best friend won't be at my wedding and although I'll miss her its not going to make me hate my day.</div>

HannahandJeremy

I would prefer to have a couple glasses of wine with lunch over going on a pub crawl.  I must be terribly dull.