Hi everyone
I am looking for a little advice. I just got engaged a week ago and we are planning on having a short engagement. This is my second engagement and I am so glad the last one did not end up happening because I have finally found the love of my life. Well, for my first engagement, I had asked my mother to be my MoH. We were always so close and like best friends. Things have changed within the last few years, and our relationship got a little strained. It is much better now. She called me, assuming that she would be MoH again this time, telling me that we needed to find her a dress and that it should be different from the other girls, and the she says- "Or are you making changes to the wedding party this time?" I told her that it was going to be different (some of my friends from last time are no longer in contact) and I told her that I just want her to enjoy being mother of the bride. I could tell that she was very upset by this. I have my best friend that I am planning on asking. Also, I have two friends that somewhat "assigned" themselves as bridesmaids seeing that they had something to do with my fiance and I meeting in the first place and they are super excited to be a part of it. I was planning on having my childhood friends of 27 years also be bridesmaids, they are twins so obviously I can't just have only one of them. My original plan for a bridal party was 3, including the MoH. I don't want a big wedding party. I am so torn right now, especially about the situation with my mother, she sounded really hurt. Any one ever been through a situation like this? This is a really happy time for me and I don't want drama to ruin things.
Thanks!