So I am in a friend's wedding in a few weeks and I live across the country. The other bridesmaids live close to the bride. A few months ago the maid of honor sent out an email to all the bridemaids saying that we should think about throwing the bride a shower. I wrote back (reply to all) that I think it is a great idea and that I would love to help in what way I could with ideas and input but I would not be able to attend due to the fact I live clear across the country. (Plane tickets aren't exactly cheap and I don't have a lot of time to take off work). So after that I never received another email from any of them. They didn't ask for help, input, ideas... no asking for involvement at all. I only knew that they actually were going through with the shower a few weeks ago because of the brides facebook posts. I didn't even get a formal invitation. The shower was this past Saturday.
So today I get an email from the maid of honor telling me I owe about $100 for the shower this past weekend. Tell me if I am wrong on this but I feel very irritated and insulted that I didn't get one shred of input or anything but now I am good enough to put money in?? I mean, what do I do? I do not want to cause a riff and I don't want to put the bride in an akward position by throwing a fuss but I am seriously upset that all I was good for was funding the event. Seriously? You don't give me any say, you don't tell me anything about the plans and party but now you want money? If I would have been included in the plans and asked for opinions I would gladly pay. I am just so mad at those girls right now.
So... what would you do?