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I feel guilty...

  So...I am the MOH in my best friends wedding this June, and she is my MOH for my wedding which is a week later. This Saturday is her bridal shower, which I am hosting, and she is hosting my bridal shower next weekend. We have been best friends since we were like 6 as have our families.
  Enter the guilt...being friends as long as we have, our families have many of the same friends. Well over the last 4 years my MOH has had some rough patches and a lot of family things going on, so the relationships with many of these family friends have suffered. We have about 6 people (not including our parents) that have been invited to both showers, but the same 6 people are attending my shower and not hers. I'm not sure if I should talk to her about it before the shower and let her know how I am feeling, or if I should let things be. My fear is that the showers will be awkward with these 6 people not attending her shower this weekend, but attending mine the next. The guilt is really getting to me...Is it a justified feeling, or am I worried about nothing?

Re: I feel guilty...

  • edited December 2011
    You shouldn't feel guilty about the mutual friends not attending both showers. Your friend is probably aware that the friendships are not as close as they once were, so I don't think there is any need to discuss it before the party. Just concentrate on the guests that show up for each party and enjoy the celebrations.
                       
  • edited December 2011
    I wouldn't feel guilty at all, she doesn't have to know why they are not attending.  They could be busy the weekend of her shower. 
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  • edited December 2011
    It's not your fault, and I wouldn't bring it up to her.  You have no reason to feel guilty, though I do understand.  Just let it go.
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    edited December 2011
    Don't feel bad. If anything, this might be a wake-up call to her that she needs to repair some of those relationships. If things have gone south between her and other mutual friends it is definitely not your fault and not something you need to have any part in 'fixing'.
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