I have an increasing problem on my hands with one of my bridesmaids. My wedding is less than 6 months away (June 26), and the plan is for the bridesmaids (there are 5 including MOH) to purchase their dresses in March. I asked all my maids in September 2009 and they all agreed. Even the friend who knew she would have to travel a ways to attend my wedding. 2 weeks until Christmas she let me know she might not be able to attend. I can understand her reasons why, and I will be okay (yet still sad) if she is unable to make it. However, if she is not able to make it, I will need to find a replacement bridesmaid. People keep telling me, its okay, you don't need another one, you're fine with who you have. But in my mind, it will bug me the whole wedding day, how someone will have to walk separate down the aisle because there is one more guy than girl. We have 5 bridesmaids because that is my favorite number and in turn, my fiance asked 5 of his friends (including Best Man). I don't want the bridal party to be un-even. Maybe I'm crazy, or just have OCD. Anyways. I gave the bridesmaid a polite ultimatium a month back or so. I asked to be notified by a certain date if she knew she would be able to attend my wedding or not. She called and I missed it since I was down with a virus for a week. No voicemail left. I returned her call, in turn left HER a voicemail, no reply since. It is now the deadline and as the timely person I am, and I upset I haven't gotten a response. I need advice on handling this situation. Do I draw out my deadline waiting to hear from her? Or should I take her silence as she is unable to make it? And if so, should I just go ahead and ask the back-up bridesmaid? I don't want to give the other girl not enough time to decide if she can be a bridesmaid, or not enough to prepare herself (asking time off work, saving for the dress and shoes) for being a bridesmaid. I know this is really long but its the best way to describe everything going on. Please help! Thank you!