I am at the end of my knotted rope, just barely swinging by a thread.
We are planning a destination wedding in the Bahamas next May.. or were but frankly I am ready to cancel everything.
My parents split when I was 6.. I am now 33. This is our second wedding for my FI and I. My father was not permitted to attend my first wedding because I was young and dumb and listened to my mother.
We thought we had it figured out this time, we would get married in Nassau with my dad and his wife present and then have a reception with my mom when we returned from our honeymoon.
My mother has flown off the deepend, about not being included in the Bahamian wedding and my stepmother Flat out refused to attend any wedding if my mother attended. If she doesn't attend thenI know my father won't.
I am still treated as if I don't fit into either family. Everything is conditional. I live 3 thousand kilometres from either of my parents who only live an hour apart. If I fly to visit, I receive nothing but HUGE drama if I split the time I spend there between both my parents, thus, I must make 2 trips to see either parent separately and in secret. My double life. One my mothers daughter, the other my fathers daughter.
Has anyone managed to overcome these types of situations and found a happy medium or should we just cancel it all and invite none of them.