Hi everyone!
So, bridesmaid issue - mild, but still bugging me. One of my bridesmaids, who I've known forever, recently said something along the lines of "I'm bringing a flask to your wedding, because I am going to need a few drinks before the ceremony". This in itself, while maybe not super advisable, doesn't really bother me, but her justification does. She said that she'll need the drinks because 'weddings creep her the f*** out, and the whole idea of watching two people promise themselves to each other forever is totally weird and makes her uncomfortable".
I know that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, so her feelings about marriage are totally fine. However, if this is how she feels, why did she say yes to being in my BP?
I hope she didn't agree to be a BM because she felt like she had to or anything. And on the other hand, while she's entitled to her opinions, I dont feel that they are appropriate for voicing to someone who's planning a wedding!
I know that I'm probably overreacting and over-analysizing this, but should I tell her that if it bugs her then she doesn't have to be in the BP? SHould I just ignore the comment all together? Should I tell her that it offended me, and that I dont really want to hear that type of negative stuff right now?
Thanks for your help!
Re: I think I'm being overdramatic...BUT
If another comment like that comes up. I would then tell her your offended.
Sometimes people don't think before they talk!
[QUOTE]Hm that is really strange. I would ignore it now to keep the peace. You have other details to worry about. If another comment like that comes up. I would then tell her your offended. Sometimes people don't think before they talk!
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One more thing to keep in mind is how you would have reacted if you weren't planning your wedding these days. What I mean is, this seems like a reasonable thing for one friend to tell another in the abstract: "The idea of marriage really creeps me out. I don't understand why people do that and can't imagine ever doing it myself." I said similar things, even early in my relationship with my now-fiance. I didn't say them directly to anyone planning her wedding, but it's a normal thing to say to a girlfriend. She doesn't stop being your friend just 'cause you're planning your wedding (though she should be more careful about what she says about marriage in front of you).
If this truly upsets you, then you should tell her, but don't ask her if she wants to step down.
Unless she starts making comments about it all the time, I'd just ignore it. And if she does start making more comments about it I'd probably just jokingly say back to her: "Some of your wedding anxiety is starting to rub off on me! Can you cool the wedding jokes around me until after I'm safely down the aisle?"
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Also, thanks LoveMuffins, I'm DEFINITELY going to remember that "wedding anxiety" line incase more comments happen...that's a nice, non-confrontational way to let her know that those sort of comments kind of upset me!
You guys are all so smart!