Sorry in advance, this is a long vent.
I'm getting married Oct. 22 so I have 4 months until my wedding. And I got engaged only 2 months ago so planning this wedding and working full time is difficult. Anyway, my FMIL is really excited about the wedding and in the beginning she was all for what I wanted. The other night on the phone, I was talking to her about how the cater hadn't called me back and the girl I was buying my dress from hadn't contacted me either. Obviously, I was stressed; and me being stressed was stressing out my FH and he called her, worried that I was starting to freak out. So she suggested she hire a wedding coordinator so I don't have to stress so much about planning everything. I agreed, since I really don't have the time to do everything by myself. That got her controlling ball rolling. She then suggested a different place for the reception even though she knows I have my heart set on the place I reserved already. And she is trying to make my wedding bigger than I want. I want it to be max 100 and right now, she wants it to be at least 125. She also wants me to change the time I get married from 2pm to 3pm (if I did, we would have to rush through the ceremony since the church has confession that starts at 4pm). And to add on top of it, I emailed her the invitation I created that both me and my FH love. And what does she say? "It needs work."
We're going bridesmaid shopping on Saturday and I'm so nervous that she is going to control the entire visit! I asked my mom to come with, but she doesn't have the time since she works 7 days/wk and can't make it. So I think I'm going to tell her I don't want her to come with, that it just be me, my MOH and one of my BM so we can have a bonding day. I mean, I know she is paying for the majority of the wedding, but it's MY wedding!! Am I over-reacting? How can I tell her to back-off without starting a brawl between the two of us? I appreciate her input, but lately, it's seems more like she's making the decisions and I'm giving input.