Sorry guys this is mostly a venting session for me. I feel like i dont even have a bridal party and its driving me crazy! I have to litterally do everything for my bridal party and it sucks because i know if i dont do it they sure wont either. Im having to order and ship dresses, make all the alterations apps ( i dont even know what kind of alterations are needed because none of the bridesmaids have the time to get fitted) im having to pick up dresses, shoes, bouquets, book salon apps,set up groomsmen tux apps, my bridesmaids told me that i needed to decide on thier hairstyles (i could honestly care less if they get thier hair done) all they seem to care about at this point is the bach partys! They want me to book limos and all this other stuff and its just too much for me. Dont i have enough to worry about with just the basics? how do i tell them that this is stuff that THEY should have to worry about? im barely keeping up with my vendors and the stuff that i should have to worry about without babysitting my wedding party too. Im not having a bach party by the way. theres just too much for me to do to go blowing my savings and hard earned money at bars (ive told them that bars were not my thing and that i was happy to do something else, but thats the only thing they are willing to do) they dont even care about my opionions on the subject and i get ignored everytime i suggest a spa day or shopping trip instead. So i might be called a bridezilla and get dirty looks from them when i tell them that its not happening, but the way i see it is why should i host a night on the town for them when i cant even get them to go pick up thier own dresses?
Re: Do i have to do everything?!
Find out the last possible date for ordering those dresses and give the information to your bms. Their only responsibility is to get the dresses on time and show up on time for the wedding. If they can't do that, then they are taking themselves out of the wedding party. The groomsmen should be treated the same way. You and fi pick out the tuxes. Give the information to the men, so they can call and make an appointment to be measured.
I don't know where your bms got the idea that the bride plans the bp, but they are wrong. It would be in extremely poor taste for you to plan a party in your own honor. If they don't want to plan something, then you don't have one.
[QUOTE]Of all those things that you mentioned, the only one you have to do is pick up their bouquets. Find out the last possible date for ordering those dresses and give the information to your bms. Their only responsibility is to get the dresses on time and show up on time for the wedding. If they can't do that, then they are taking themselves out of the wedding party. The groomsmen should be treated the same way. You and fi pick out the tuxes. Give the information to the men, so they can call and make an appointment to be measured. I don't know where your bms got the idea that the bride plans the bp, but they are wrong. It would be in extremely poor taste for you to plan a party in your own honor. If they don't want to plan something, then you don't have one.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]
This...
And I have to say this also: these are your FRIENDS who are treating you this way? Seriously? If all of this is what is happening, you need to evaluate your friendships. It's one thing to be a bridzilla, it is another to have your <em>friends </em>treat you like a doormat<em>.</em>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do i have to do everything?! : This... And I have to say this also: these are your FRIENDS who are treating you this way? Seriously? If all of this is what is happening, you need to evaluate your friendships. It's one thing to be a bridzilla, it is another to have your friends treat you like a doormat .
Posted by Muffin'sMom[/QUOTE]
<div>Seconded. Why are you friends with these people?</div>